After confronting my husband, he explained himself and I decided to forgive him back then.
Recently, he has been staying up late and felt a bit distant so I snooped and looked at his phone again to see what he’s been up to. I came across his text messages and saw that he had texted 2 freelance massage ladies. One of them replied that she wasn’t free and so there weren’t messages after that. Not sure if he went for any in the end.
On a separate day, I found out that he had been using the wechat people nearby function to look up profiles of girls, chatted with one and then deleted the entire conversation a day later. I also found that he saved this particular massage lady’s contact as an abbreviation in the contact list, though there were no communications. I didn’t want him to know that I found out all these through snooping so I asked if he would ever cheat on me and cited the story as an example. He understood my concern and lately, he has been keeping me updated on his whereabouts and assuring me that he won’t cheat. I’m still pretty concerned and worried that he would stray though he has been a loving and doting husband to me so far. I don’t like to snoop but am worried that my husband will do something behind my back. How should I deal with this?