Hi All,
I never thought i'll post here but i need you guys as a sounding board. Four months ago, i met Guy A and B (both friends) at a club. We exchanged contact numbers and i initiated chat with Guy A and it became a daily affair. Guy B messaged me occasionally and i reply though not as enthusiastically as Guy A. Both me and Guy A enjoyed each other's bantering over text messages. A month later, he voiced his dislike of me chatting with Guy B. Jealousy is probably a strong word to use but it was then i realised he might be interested in me. I probed further and he said he likes me but is definitely not love. Since there is a "match", I confessed my positive feelings to him. I also suggested we should get to know each other on a more personal level. A date was arranged a week later. On the day of the date, before we were supposed to meet up, I found out that he had argued with Guy B on the same day he voiced his dislike of me texting with his friend. He told Guy B to stop chatting with me and to delete my number. We never met because Guy B sabotaged our date.
I became more proactive in my pursuit for Guy A. Initiating daily text messages which he replied, occasional chit chats over the phone which he answered, asking him out but always getting the "see how, maybe, cannot confirm" replies. Friends have been telling me if a guy likes you, he will come forth to you. He's just not that into you. I was in denial and still am.
Lately, he has been telling me we can only be friends. When questioned, he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. He mentioned it to me again last night when i asked him when he will be free to meet up. My world came crashing down. I told him i know he doesn't like me and i cant force him to like me. He said he likes me but is not love. Of course it isn't love since we aren't even dating. I don't know if i'm finding excuse for him, I gathered that he is fond of me yet not enough to commit. Or something is holding him back.
1. If he doesn't like me, he wouldn't argued with his friend over me. That was 4 months ago and things probably have changed.
2. We finally went out proper last Sunday. He questioned who i went out with the day before, whether it was a guy or a gal. Though he sound possessive, it also meant that he "cares" about me. On our way home, I asked if this is considered a date and if there will be a 2nd date, he said yes, depending on his work schedule. He further added that he enjoyed himself today. Maybe he doesn't know how to say No. However, the next time we texted, he told me we can only be friends.
I'm confused. He gave me hope yet he crashed it the next instant. I know the simplest solution is to walk away. Trust me, i have been trying to peel myself away from him. It's a losing battle. I am also starting to be annoyed with my persistence towards him, not to mention him yet he still reply my text messages. Why does he still reply my message even though he insist it's a one sided affair?
I never thought i'll post here but i need you guys as a sounding board. Four months ago, i met Guy A and B (both friends) at a club. We exchanged contact numbers and i initiated chat with Guy A and it became a daily affair. Guy B messaged me occasionally and i reply though not as enthusiastically as Guy A. Both me and Guy A enjoyed each other's bantering over text messages. A month later, he voiced his dislike of me chatting with Guy B. Jealousy is probably a strong word to use but it was then i realised he might be interested in me. I probed further and he said he likes me but is definitely not love. Since there is a "match", I confessed my positive feelings to him. I also suggested we should get to know each other on a more personal level. A date was arranged a week later. On the day of the date, before we were supposed to meet up, I found out that he had argued with Guy B on the same day he voiced his dislike of me texting with his friend. He told Guy B to stop chatting with me and to delete my number. We never met because Guy B sabotaged our date.
I became more proactive in my pursuit for Guy A. Initiating daily text messages which he replied, occasional chit chats over the phone which he answered, asking him out but always getting the "see how, maybe, cannot confirm" replies. Friends have been telling me if a guy likes you, he will come forth to you. He's just not that into you. I was in denial and still am.
Lately, he has been telling me we can only be friends. When questioned, he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. He mentioned it to me again last night when i asked him when he will be free to meet up. My world came crashing down. I told him i know he doesn't like me and i cant force him to like me. He said he likes me but is not love. Of course it isn't love since we aren't even dating. I don't know if i'm finding excuse for him, I gathered that he is fond of me yet not enough to commit. Or something is holding him back.
1. If he doesn't like me, he wouldn't argued with his friend over me. That was 4 months ago and things probably have changed.
2. We finally went out proper last Sunday. He questioned who i went out with the day before, whether it was a guy or a gal. Though he sound possessive, it also meant that he "cares" about me. On our way home, I asked if this is considered a date and if there will be a 2nd date, he said yes, depending on his work schedule. He further added that he enjoyed himself today. Maybe he doesn't know how to say No. However, the next time we texted, he told me we can only be friends.
I'm confused. He gave me hope yet he crashed it the next instant. I know the simplest solution is to walk away. Trust me, i have been trying to peel myself away from him. It's a losing battle. I am also starting to be annoyed with my persistence towards him, not to mention him yet he still reply my text messages. Why does he still reply my message even though he insist it's a one sided affair?