Facing uncertainty and need some advice maybe....

I have been an avid follower of this forum. I remember stumbling upon this while I was still in uni gathering information as part of wedding preparations. I have always enjoyed reading views of the “veterans” who have always given sound advice. Never have I thought that I would eventually come here to ask for views.

Life has been pretty smooth for me. I am a typical Singaporean uni grad. Fell in love with uni mate, happily married, staying in BTO and bore two lovely kids age 2 and 5. My hubby and I have been working for abt 10 years. He in private sector while I am in public sector. About half a year ago, he shared with me that he couldn’t stand his boss. So he had been engaging me and preparing me for the day that he will tender his resignation. Until just a week ago, he finally decided to “throw the letter”. We have discussed finances and it seemed that we are doing fine. BTO paid up and reasonable sum of savings in our banks. And worked out that I am able to sustain this family expenses in terms of groceries, kid’s childcare, maid and car loan (we recently got a second hand car and paid 50% of it). Although looking at the math, it seemed as if we can survive without his salary, I can’t help but feel a sense of loss without his stream of income.

My husband thinks that since we are in pretty good financial state, he feels that he could take some time off to rest and think abt what he enjoys doing. He does not like to be stuck in the rat race and is exploring options like property agent and setting up businesses or sales. I have spoken to him that he can take the break but he should continue his job search just in case his plans don’t pan out well. Deep down, I hope that he can get a job soon so that we can have certainty to provide our kids a better life. More resources, more choices. Am I expecting too much? I am hoping to hear from the “veterans” who have experienced more in life. Thanks in advance!


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Hi limlikelemongrass,

There is always plentiful of opportunities out. There are people doing very well in different view.

I will say indeed sales job can be very different compared to office job. You can do OT very single day and get the same paid wherelse sales, property, etc can be different.

I believe you know him more than anyone else, if his character are those that can be committed and put in his effort and never give up type, then he can try something different.

I am also Looking out for people to join my team in my business. If your Husband is looking for opportunities, we can meet up perhaps and share more with you and your Husband.
if you have been working in civil service during all your career path, you could encourage him to join CS.
a lot of ppl in the private sector has this misconception that life in CS is stable, however for agencies and stat boards that have yet to go through digital transformation, one can be in for a rude shock later as some roles will definitely be made redundant.

however with that being said, as a civil servant now, i realized most in CS has this "frog in the well" mentality.
no jobs no matter private or public is inferior to one another, as long as one can slowly climb the corporate ladder, there is still some light at the end of the tunnel.

there is this saying by Confucius: “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”

Success is a marathon. Sometimes slow and steady really does win the race. Don’t stress yourself if you aren’t where you expected to be, as long as you keep moving forward.

It doesn’t matter if you are moving a step closer or an inch closer to your dreams, as long as you’re moving closer.

It’s all just a process. Enjoy the process because when you reach the top and your dream is a reality, you’ll realize the process was truly the best part. Of course you don’t believe me now, but you will…later on in life when you have been granted the key to your dreams.