hi
me and my bf has been in a long distance relationship for several years as he is not a singaporean..
somehow we had a turbulence relationship and we did ever break off in between for several times but to cut the story short, we always end up talking and being back together again
we got engaged 4 years ago but certain things happen in between and he got himself into deep financial stress
due to failure in investments decision and he went to a so call "depression" , occuring mood swings etc
i felt disappointed as i couldnt c any future in us since he is very much indulge into his own life, working and making money and regaining his life back.... ..... but nothing much plan for us , and how we will be able to live together in one place ...
As he is extremely busy making money back to clear his debts etc, although he claim that he also feel very sad about the current situation about us , but there is nothing much he can do since now he has no money and cant do much,
He is those big ego type that wun be able to accept any financial help from me no matter how bad his situation is
I felt really disappointed as i also feel that he is not considering how i feel at all, i am not difficult to satisfy person financially and i m those that think that if we are able to be together, we can work things out even financially.
I am holding a good job in sg and honestly speaking, my life is pretty comfortable here, i earn decent income and have savings, I m in mid 30s and he is 38
He feel that currently he did not want to drag me into his financial stress and we will end up with a lot of quarrels if we stay together as financial stability is very important to him and he like to take care and provide for me type .
in between when i m in sg, i try to give myself chance to try to go out and know new man but somehow, no one is able to last and somehow i just find no one as suitable as my bf and i cant let go of my feelings for him
I m very sad about our situation as very afraid of wasting so much of my time and youth without knowing the outcome ...
I did tink about just quitting my job here n just go and insist to stay with him, hoping things can work out ...although i have no family or any financial committment in sg, but a part of me is just afraid of the risk as i dunno if i realli can be happy there ... .... and also i know he wun welcome me initially but hoping he can just accept it after some time when things already happen as i feel when in real, face to face, is a different situation .. currently cos since we only communicate through the phone, is very easy to just go into cold war for a period after some disagreements... whereas in real, is easier to resolve any unhappinness or quarrel
Later, i will try to find a job there , luckily currently financially i m self sufficient
but to him doesnt matter cos he will not take any of my money for support, if i m there , he has to take care of me thats what he feel
or when i really tried and never work , i know in my heart that i already tried instead of us leaving the existing situation hanging in e air ................
if i do that, what i lose is a job in sg which i could be able to find another job somehow later i feel.....
am i right to think lilke that ?
me and my bf has been in a long distance relationship for several years as he is not a singaporean..
somehow we had a turbulence relationship and we did ever break off in between for several times but to cut the story short, we always end up talking and being back together again
we got engaged 4 years ago but certain things happen in between and he got himself into deep financial stress
due to failure in investments decision and he went to a so call "depression" , occuring mood swings etc
i felt disappointed as i couldnt c any future in us since he is very much indulge into his own life, working and making money and regaining his life back.... ..... but nothing much plan for us , and how we will be able to live together in one place ...
As he is extremely busy making money back to clear his debts etc, although he claim that he also feel very sad about the current situation about us , but there is nothing much he can do since now he has no money and cant do much,
He is those big ego type that wun be able to accept any financial help from me no matter how bad his situation is
I felt really disappointed as i also feel that he is not considering how i feel at all, i am not difficult to satisfy person financially and i m those that think that if we are able to be together, we can work things out even financially.
I am holding a good job in sg and honestly speaking, my life is pretty comfortable here, i earn decent income and have savings, I m in mid 30s and he is 38
He feel that currently he did not want to drag me into his financial stress and we will end up with a lot of quarrels if we stay together as financial stability is very important to him and he like to take care and provide for me type .
in between when i m in sg, i try to give myself chance to try to go out and know new man but somehow, no one is able to last and somehow i just find no one as suitable as my bf and i cant let go of my feelings for him
I m very sad about our situation as very afraid of wasting so much of my time and youth without knowing the outcome ...
I did tink about just quitting my job here n just go and insist to stay with him, hoping things can work out ...although i have no family or any financial committment in sg, but a part of me is just afraid of the risk as i dunno if i realli can be happy there ... .... and also i know he wun welcome me initially but hoping he can just accept it after some time when things already happen as i feel when in real, face to face, is a different situation .. currently cos since we only communicate through the phone, is very easy to just go into cold war for a period after some disagreements... whereas in real, is easier to resolve any unhappinness or quarrel
Later, i will try to find a job there , luckily currently financially i m self sufficient
but to him doesnt matter cos he will not take any of my money for support, if i m there , he has to take care of me thats what he feel
or when i really tried and never work , i know in my heart that i already tried instead of us leaving the existing situation hanging in e air ................
if i do that, what i lose is a job in sg which i could be able to find another job somehow later i feel.....
am i right to think lilke that ?