Hi all
Forum newbie here, please be kind to me
I need some insights as to how to "spark" the relationship again. We've been married for 2 years, and recently, our relationship has become so strained. We no longer have fun together. Every day's just a dull day, and even if we try to do something interesting together, it ends up seeming like a chore, just to go out, squeeze with the crowds etc.
There's been so many pressures in our lives. My parents have always been overbearing, trying to intrude and control our lives. We've been trying for a baby but with no luck, turns out that I'm not even ovulating. Sex life has gone down the drain, and even this has become a point of immense pressure coz we're both not "satisfied". He says that it's normal for a man under work stress to not be very "hard" and to come quickly, but to me it seems like he doesn't love me as before?? sigh...how can i make him understand?
I wish I could complain like others that my husband's a drunkard, or a gambler and has other bad habits like that. But no, I married the dream man. He works hard, thinks about earning more money for me, always tries to provide for me. He's so practical, but how do I make him understand that a woman needs love, adoration, cuddling and 'worshipped' in a small sense...like she's the most beautiful woman in his eyes?
To him, these things do not matter. He sees his provision as the biggest declaration of love. Without daily kisses, hugs etc.
Am I wrong to be feeling this way?
What's worse, recently I've had a really charming colleague who's been making "cat eyes" at me. We're not developing anything, nor intending to develop anything. It's just that I feel very vulnerable that there's someone who well, says, breaks into a grin when he sees me, or somehow makes a deliberate move to walk through a door and grins at me. Perhaps he's a flirt, but the attention I get from him, is even more than what my husband gives!
Am I unreasonable to be even feeling this way? How can I make my husband understand?
Forum newbie here, please be kind to me
I need some insights as to how to "spark" the relationship again. We've been married for 2 years, and recently, our relationship has become so strained. We no longer have fun together. Every day's just a dull day, and even if we try to do something interesting together, it ends up seeming like a chore, just to go out, squeeze with the crowds etc.
There's been so many pressures in our lives. My parents have always been overbearing, trying to intrude and control our lives. We've been trying for a baby but with no luck, turns out that I'm not even ovulating. Sex life has gone down the drain, and even this has become a point of immense pressure coz we're both not "satisfied". He says that it's normal for a man under work stress to not be very "hard" and to come quickly, but to me it seems like he doesn't love me as before?? sigh...how can i make him understand?
I wish I could complain like others that my husband's a drunkard, or a gambler and has other bad habits like that. But no, I married the dream man. He works hard, thinks about earning more money for me, always tries to provide for me. He's so practical, but how do I make him understand that a woman needs love, adoration, cuddling and 'worshipped' in a small sense...like she's the most beautiful woman in his eyes?
To him, these things do not matter. He sees his provision as the biggest declaration of love. Without daily kisses, hugs etc.
Am I wrong to be feeling this way?
What's worse, recently I've had a really charming colleague who's been making "cat eyes" at me. We're not developing anything, nor intending to develop anything. It's just that I feel very vulnerable that there's someone who well, says, breaks into a grin when he sees me, or somehow makes a deliberate move to walk through a door and grins at me. Perhaps he's a flirt, but the attention I get from him, is even more than what my husband gives!
Am I unreasonable to be even feeling this way? How can I make my husband understand?
