Peter.. i totally agree w you...recently i have this "boy /girl" topic discussions w my colleague and bf.. i don think it is fair to say tat a guy should pay more in this or in other times the ger will say "now modern era le , nan nu pin deng" since woman also working le.. guys also can cook too.. very contradicting.. to me even there is no law tat a son has to be the one taking care of his parents, the dau don need to cos she is "poured out water after marriage" or say bro has to take care of sis cos he is a guy or the elder sibling got to take care of the younger or the hsehold expenses more just cos he is bigger..or the richer got to feed on the poorer.. i think everything is a two hand clap thing.. and to be totally fair..it should applies to all benefits and expenses..
i am very touchy over this topic recently while preparing for my ROM coming in Jan 09 and my new hse which is surpose to come in early Feb 09. Who say son is the sole caregiver for his parents?? dau is not a child meh?? not "BLOOOD related" meh.. who says the elder got to take care of younger.. this sentence shd be true for kids tat are very young...and to learn sharing the elder got to give in to the younger sometimes..but not ALL situations. i don encourage favourism too. say a certain age when hsehold chores can be done by a younger kid then both siblings should share the wk load together..not say"you are bigger you do!!" attitude.. WTF..anyway use your own judgement to judge if a task is safe for a age to do in the first place, don judge based on seniority ... esp you are in 20s/30s .. you still need the elder to do things for u meh??are u handicapped?? even my handicapped uncle is earning at least 3k a mth from his small biz.. wat wrong with the adults nowadays??
Sames goes to the theory ¡°kids got to let the parent win everytime ¨C to be filial" who say so???!!.. everything fair n square..all situation shd be accessed b4 saying who shd be on the "upper hand" anyway all events got two/more ways angles to look from de..just be considerate best..then i believe world peace really can be created..don need unnecessary comparison etc.. and to me..The older people prior to the 70s generation de..mostly has NO education, woman are mainly hse wives, no income..so they expected their kids (son esp) to Ñø them when they are older¡actually it is just a financial insecurity tat they have so they cultivate this theory to their kids since young and when the kids de-rail from the theory, they start screaming say the kids is infilial. To me if you got your own earning power, financial independence, you don need to relay on people de.. both me n my bf has this same tot..when we old we shd use our own money savings ourselves..no law that I have to give my life savings for the kids..they shd earn themselves..and sames goes the other way, I don expect I have to take money from them as if they really owe me something..although I did bring them up..as long as I m not TOTALLY disabled. Of course, kids do have to give some cash allowances to parents as ¡°pocket money¡± since your parents do give u pocket money in the past too .. but not give by FORCE..
and another issue.. Richer has to pay more when goin out w the one earning lesser - who say the higher income person got to go ard treating ppl who earns less then them.. ppl w higher income (mgrs,boss or eeven peers) got to pay for ur meals etc?? they earn more might be due to their educ (which they got to pay for themselves).skills,risk,stress etc so why should we tap on their higher income n think its ok to do so?? of course , such higher income mgr shd occassionally give small treats to his staff after all they are a team.. and teamwk is nec to make him climbs higher too.. as a motivation..but not a obligation... and higher income ppl do have their fiancial commitments.. Don compare that a 2k income person can survive w his income even after CPF then how come a 5/6k person keep complainin no money ..normally the richer you gets, the more u indulge in luxury items or more necessity for his family eg insurance, hse exps tat can be so high tat the lower income earners wont e able to imagine or purely the richer has poor financial management..
as quoted in Rich Dad Poor Dad (Robert Kiyosaki)¡¯s books, this kind of situation is called ¡°pest feeding the pest¡± you shd know who is the pest ganna feed in these scenarios.. but why are you called a pest too then?? Cos in these feeding process, we normally encourage more pest-ing to be done, the pooring /¡±weaker¡± get worst, more lazy, dreaming tat there is alwiz someone ¡°up there¡± who is stronger then u in terms of $$, physical, sex, age, family status etc to take care of u..such person will create more social issues..eg..u lend money to gamblers/drugs sniffer thinking they will change.. they turn to more drugs/gamble when they got meony from you the carrot head or the combined funds from all the richer >> more crimes .. then aren¡¯t you a PEST too?? I m not telling people to be selfish..but do be more sensible in all cases ba..do your assessment carefully
* To Ends my discuss, Summary: Dont complain,nag,expect someone to do this do that, pay this pay that cos of xxx reasons .. THinks from other angles, from other ppl's shoes.. be fair totally if u wan to be happy ¡
** 10 Q to ¡°listen¡± to my ¡°presentation¡±. <<bows>>
p/s: I am very open to discussion on this topic or if anyone still don¡¯t get it and need my clarifications. Just give me a email/msn at
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