When we first got married, everything was fine. The arrival of the baby, the purchase of the flat, the getting-along of family members. All smooth sailing.
She has not been working ever since she got pregnant. Thankful for being able to be there thru out the growing stages of our son.
However things took a sudden turn when she started to hang out with some "friends".
We have been frequently arguing over her late night clubbing sessions. I even plead with her to go once per week, and come back early. Only to see her going on Wednesday, return at 7am +.
Whenever I question her, she goes harping on the topic of mutual trust. Right. I should trust her.
Fast-forward 2-3 months later.
Last Friday, as usual, she was out late, back around 5am. We quarrelled again.
Last Saturday afternoon, she vanished into thin air, without any trace or notes, leaving us (me & family members) worrying about her.
Last Sunday night, she informed me that she's staying at a guy's place and she's really very very sorry and ask if there's anything she can do to reduce the pain.
Yesterday night, she returned home around 3am to pack some belongings to bring to the guy's place. I woke up when I saw her and tried to talk to her. But to no avail. Son was sleeping soundly so I didnt wanna make a scene.
After thinking things thru, it seems inevitable that she wants a divorce. She told me that I could have the custody of the child & the flat. She just want freedom, to get out of this marriage.
My main focus is the child. Poor kid would have to grow up in a single parent family, subjected to the ridicules of other insensitive kids. But there's apparently nothing I could do.
Can I delay the signing of the papers? She's hoping to get the divorce papers done as soon as possible.
We bought a HDB resale flat and the MOP of 5 years have not been fulfilled. Plus I'm not yet 35 so I doubt I could obtain sole ownership of a HDB flat. Is it possible to appeal to HDB to grant on a case-to-case basis?
Plus my son is only 2 years old now. The wife has no capability to take care of the child but I understand that the court tend to give custody to the wife.
Last but not least, I'm trying to see if it's possible to file the papers personally instead of going thru a lawyer if we could amicably settle the custody & property matters.
Any advise & help would be much appreciated.
I'm too devastated at the moment and sincerely hope that fellow members could help me out here.
Thanks.
She has not been working ever since she got pregnant. Thankful for being able to be there thru out the growing stages of our son.
However things took a sudden turn when she started to hang out with some "friends".
We have been frequently arguing over her late night clubbing sessions. I even plead with her to go once per week, and come back early. Only to see her going on Wednesday, return at 7am +.
Whenever I question her, she goes harping on the topic of mutual trust. Right. I should trust her.
Fast-forward 2-3 months later.
Last Friday, as usual, she was out late, back around 5am. We quarrelled again.
Last Saturday afternoon, she vanished into thin air, without any trace or notes, leaving us (me & family members) worrying about her.
Last Sunday night, she informed me that she's staying at a guy's place and she's really very very sorry and ask if there's anything she can do to reduce the pain.
Yesterday night, she returned home around 3am to pack some belongings to bring to the guy's place. I woke up when I saw her and tried to talk to her. But to no avail. Son was sleeping soundly so I didnt wanna make a scene.
After thinking things thru, it seems inevitable that she wants a divorce. She told me that I could have the custody of the child & the flat. She just want freedom, to get out of this marriage.
My main focus is the child. Poor kid would have to grow up in a single parent family, subjected to the ridicules of other insensitive kids. But there's apparently nothing I could do.
Can I delay the signing of the papers? She's hoping to get the divorce papers done as soon as possible.
We bought a HDB resale flat and the MOP of 5 years have not been fulfilled. Plus I'm not yet 35 so I doubt I could obtain sole ownership of a HDB flat. Is it possible to appeal to HDB to grant on a case-to-case basis?
Plus my son is only 2 years old now. The wife has no capability to take care of the child but I understand that the court tend to give custody to the wife.
Last but not least, I'm trying to see if it's possible to file the papers personally instead of going thru a lawyer if we could amicably settle the custody & property matters.
Any advise & help would be much appreciated.
I'm too devastated at the moment and sincerely hope that fellow members could help me out here.
Thanks.