hi all,
i am getting married next year. initial plan was after married we will be staying at his parents house. but he changed his mind and would like to get a place for our own. personally i don't have any problem with staying at in law's place or buying our own house, so i agreed to his decision.
when i let my mom know that we are planning to get our own house, she told me she would like follow me after i got married. my parents has been divorced for many years, dad has since remarried, mom remains single. i would be the happiest person if i can take care of my mom until old age, but i doubt my fiance would. he is a very reserved person, he likes to have his own place, his own space.
the original arrangement for my mom was she will be staying with my sister's family but actually she would like to stay with me bcos she feels i love her more than my sister to her.
currently my mom is staying at another country alone. she is already 67 years old, she's very healthy and active. i just brought her for full medical check up and the result is very good. despite that, me and my sis are worried if she continues to live alone in another country. so, we want her to come here to stay with my sister.
firstly, i have not asked my fiance what does he think if my mom stay with us. secondly, if my fiance refused, what should i do? i have told mom that my fiance might not agree to this, she was very sad to hear that.
the reason why i dare not to bring up this matter to my fiance because i dare not to face the reality. i have a feeling he will not agree. i love my mom & my fiance, i don't want to let them down. but is it possible? do i have to choose between them?
i am getting married next year. initial plan was after married we will be staying at his parents house. but he changed his mind and would like to get a place for our own. personally i don't have any problem with staying at in law's place or buying our own house, so i agreed to his decision.
when i let my mom know that we are planning to get our own house, she told me she would like follow me after i got married. my parents has been divorced for many years, dad has since remarried, mom remains single. i would be the happiest person if i can take care of my mom until old age, but i doubt my fiance would. he is a very reserved person, he likes to have his own place, his own space.
the original arrangement for my mom was she will be staying with my sister's family but actually she would like to stay with me bcos she feels i love her more than my sister to her.
currently my mom is staying at another country alone. she is already 67 years old, she's very healthy and active. i just brought her for full medical check up and the result is very good. despite that, me and my sis are worried if she continues to live alone in another country. so, we want her to come here to stay with my sister.
firstly, i have not asked my fiance what does he think if my mom stay with us. secondly, if my fiance refused, what should i do? i have told mom that my fiance might not agree to this, she was very sad to hear that.
the reason why i dare not to bring up this matter to my fiance because i dare not to face the reality. i have a feeling he will not agree. i love my mom & my fiance, i don't want to let them down. but is it possible? do i have to choose between them?