Well for both guys and ladies, they have their own set of expectations. When they never review on the reality value of their expectations and unable to find a partner who qualifies, naturally it becomes hard to find.
Well the pretext is if such a person does exist also and if they matched up to them or not.
To quote some typical expectations I came by;
For most guys, they want girls who are pleasant to the eye... good bod... (add on yourself) and yet having the submissive culture as the earlier generations.
For most ladies, they want successful... humourous... (add on yourself)and their mentalities have also evolved from the earlier generations to a much independant and self-suffice role.
Unless there's a balance that link the mentality of both genders otherwise it's always tough to look for a partner for both genders.
Hence quite some amount of guys are looking for more submissive partners from vietnam and other countries as apparently it would be easier for them to find a match to their expectations, as the cultural for their ladies have mostly yet to evolve till like so of the locals.
Vice versa for the ladies. I also do know some lady friends who swore local guys off their list with the "Ang mo is more superior" kind of mentality and possess what they are looking for.
Basically I don't think that a partner is that tough to sought for locally. It all depends on what citerias you are looking for and if you are also able to match up to the interest of the other party.
It's like are you looking for a partner to build a simple loving family together, or one that is able to maintain the same comfort level of living together or a trophy wife/husband.
For all these category of personnels, they have different expectations of their own and there's no Tom/Jane that is universal to match up to them.
I would like to quote the blood group theory. All positive blood type can accept O+ and all want O+. But for O+, they can only take O+. And in the field of relationship, O+ is rare. Everyone wants them but not everyone can get them. Most of the time O+ themselves are also looking for O+.
All down to personal expectations. There's cases of mechanics and doctors married to each other and having a blissful marriage. Handicaps matching with a normal person and various other great examples too.
When I look for a partner, I go natural. I don't like to push myself too hard to fit into her expectations, nor do I wanna her to fit into my expectation. We work it out together and balance our expectations in harmony, accepting each other for we are and see the beauty in it.
I'm also getting kinda lost after a sucky lunch and ain't quite coherent here.
Sum it up, Expose yourself, review your citerias, let the flow go naturally and just don't try too hard. It's shouldn't be tough and there's no need to compromise also. Just be realistic.