Cutting ties with children from previous marriage?

[yehenara]

I have been divorced for close to 10 year.
I have two daughters which I spent every evenings with after work.
They are very close to me even though we are not living together.

Recently, I met a woman. We both love each other very much.
She however, does not like me to spend time with my family including my mom and siblings, and of course my children. She wants me to chose between her and my other family (mom, kids, siblings). I should be committed to our relationship and a new family that we will build.

I can't sever my ties with my kids and mom. My wish is that she will eventually be part of my extended family.
She thinks I pay more importance to them than her. Am I wrong to have this wish of integrating her with my family? If we get married, should I really cut ties with my past i.e. my family, my kids?

Appreciate some guidance here.

 

[John Tan68]

I have been divorced for close to 10 year.
I have two daughters which I spent every evenings with after work.
They are very close to me even though we are not living together.

Recently, I met a woman. We both love each other very much.
She however, does not like me to spend time with my family including my mom and siblings, and of course my children. She wants me to chose between her and my other family (mom, kids, siblings). I should be committed to our relationship and a new family that we will build.

I can't sever my ties with my kids and mom. My wish is that she will eventually be part of my extended family.
She thinks I pay more importance to them than her. Am I wrong to have this wish of integrating her with my family? If we get married, should I really cut ties with my past i.e. my family, my kids?

Appreciate some guidance here.

Bro, an understanding partner should accept you for who you are. Cutting ties with kids and your mom, to me is totally not acceptable. Just my opinion.

 

[rip_curl]

Bro, an understanding partner should accept you for who you are. Cutting ties with kids and your mom, to me is totally not acceptable. Just my opinion.

I totally agree with bro John Tan68!

@TS: Are you serious? Crazy or out of your mind? At your age, you should know what is the correct thing to do. You should ditch that lady!

 

[ing1]

Love is blind but at your age, you should be rational too. Maybe you should ask her the same question too - will she cut her ties with her parents for you.

 

[newproject]

Agree. TS needs to wake up his idea. Red flags waving galore.

Kids alone is crazy enough but asking you to cut ties with your mother and sibling?? (Hope I reading it right

I hope this is just a troll post.


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I totally agree with bro John Tan68!

@TS: Are you serious? Crazy or out of your mind? At your age, you should know what is the correct thing to do. You should ditch that lady!

 

[misspighead]

asking you to cut ties with ur family (parents, siblings & kids) u really think she is the one for you? who knows she will even ask u to stop contacting your friends... this kind should just kick her far away.... a real lady will not request for such things...

 

[miloice]

I have been divorced for close to 10 year.
I have two daughters which I spent every evenings with after work.
They are very close to me even though we are not living together.

Recently, I met a woman. We both love each other very much.
She however, does not like me to spend time with my family including my mom and siblings, and of course my children. She wants me to chose between her and my other family (mom, kids, siblings). I should be committed to our relationship and a new family that we will build.

I can't sever my ties with my kids and mom. My wish is that she will eventually be part of my extended family.
She thinks I pay more importance to them than her. Am I wrong to have this wish of integrating her with my family? If we get married, should I really cut ties with my past i.e. my family, my kids?

Appreciate some guidance here.

hi there, how much do you understand this new gf of yours. What was her history? Her personality is likely to affect her previous relationship / marriage as well. Be aware what you are getting into. There could be underlying issues that she have that leads to her behavior. Sometimes, you can help her let go of her need to dominate. Often, you cannot. So, you should really reflect over the entire relationship.

 

[sane]

She might as well put u into a cage and catered only for her own pleasure, sound so ridiculous.

 

[GreatScotch]

I have been divorced for close to 10 year.
I have two daughters which I spent every evenings with after work.
They are very close to me even though we are not living together.

Recently, I met a woman. We both love each other very much.
She however, does not like me to spend time with my family including my mom and siblings, and of course my children. She wants me to chose between her and my other family (mom, kids, siblings). I should be committed to our relationship and a new family that we will build.

I can't sever my ties with my kids and mom. My wish is that she will eventually be part of my extended family.
She thinks I pay more importance to them than her. Am I wrong to have this wish of integrating her with my family? If we get married, should I really cut ties with my past i.e. my family, my kids?

Appreciate some guidance here.

Cutting ties to ex wife is acceptable. But to your children is unacceptable. You have a responsibility towards them. Any good wife will understand that. You should cut ties with any woman who demands you cut ties with your children.

 

[Sillywomen]

you have just started with her. if thing not going well stop. she is not for you

 

[newproject]

Hope this is not a troll.

If not, run for the hills!!

Cut ties with your mum and siblings? Only a really mentally ill person would ask that.

 

[arsenal_84]

any woman asking you to cut relations with your family is not worth your time dating.
don't even go down the path of having a future with her.

 

[ckgal]

maybe she is the overly possessive type

 

[rip_curl]

maybe she is the overly possessive type

Possessive or not, her fundamentals are all wrong. If she loves the guy, she needs to accept and work things out in the best possible way. Vice Versa

 

[buddhabar]

TS, as a divorcee , you should know better children and bloodline are perpetual .
spouse aint unfortunately , they are conditional .

 

[TanyaBurr]

If she really loves you, then she would accept you the way you are and whatever you have. If she is the kind of woman who cannot take care of kids and give them the love and respect they deserve, then I don't think she is a good woman. She may not be the real mom of the kids, but you are the real dad of your kids and all daughters have some expectations from their fathers. Don't let go of your daughters because of some bad woman, who just cannot understand you. You should know that you're responsible for your daughters, not her.

 

[Dje]

If she really loves you, then she would accept you the way you are and whatever you have. If she is the kind of woman who cannot take care of kids and give them the love and respect they deserve, then I don't think she is a good woman. She may not be the real mom of the kids, but you are the real dad of your kids and all daughters have some expectations from their fathers. Don't let go of your daughters because of some bad woman, who just cannot understand you. You should know that you're responsible for your daughters, not her.

Agree but just figure out what u want from her. If u want her to be a stepmom u gotta work hard to convince her that it’s worth it beyond just having fun. If it gets too hard, I would take the easy way out and find someone else

 

[Catin]

This is not normal. I feel she is after your money.