COUGARS..........care to share
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Thats rite my wife is about 2 yrs older than me... you are mentioning about ages more than 10 yrs? I think bascially it's the mentality.
If both are ok with it, than it's no issue. Tongues may wag but it's the norm cos this society still quite conservative and cannot really accept ladies older than guys. People may see that the guy is "eating soft rice"
True love can withstand the gossips. There is a interview on TV a while ago that interview a guy who is younger than his wife by 9 yrs old. Perhaps you can try to look for it and watch it.
If both are ok with it, than it's no issue. Tongues may wag but it's the norm cos this society still quite conservative and cannot really accept ladies older than guys. People may see that the guy is "eating soft rice"
True love can withstand the gossips. There is a interview on TV a while ago that interview a guy who is younger than his wife by 9 yrs old. Perhaps you can try to look for it and watch it.
carrot_carrot
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Sharon Au is reported to be marrying her French bf, 8 years her junior.
hey thomas..
i m 40..been together for 2 yrs plus and doesnt feel that longggggg at all..
never believed in gauging maturity by age.. prefer to see a person for what they are regardless of "race language or religion"
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we do have our differences but thankfully communication has not been a problem.. we talk it out and agree to disagree.. so it has been good so far..
i m 40..been together for 2 yrs plus and doesnt feel that longggggg at all..
never believed in gauging maturity by age.. prefer to see a person for what they are regardless of "race language or religion"
.. we do have our differences but thankfully communication has not been a problem.. we talk it out and agree to disagree.. so it has been good so far..
err no issue about families coz both of us have been living independent lives from our families even before we met... he spent many years overseas and travelling for work from his early twenties and i have been staying on my own for quite some time..
we have been living together and tho family acceptance was never an issue for us.. i m happy my family *mom brothers/nephews/nieces* adores him and his dad do ask us out for dinner or come visit sometime..
we have been living together and tho family acceptance was never an issue for us.. i m happy my family *mom brothers/nephews/nieces* adores him and his dad do ask us out for dinner or come visit sometime..
hi peegs, good to hear that you share the same tts as me. fortunate 4 you that family members are ok with both of you being together. as for me, i am not so lucky cos all my friends and his family are against the idea. however, we still went on ahead....against it all and today we are still happily married ......tt it would be a good idea to make more friends out there who are in similar relationship lest we have something in common......
sgbabydoll
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I have an ex-colleague whose wife is 14 years older than him. When they got married he was 25 and she, 39. They had their first and only child the next year. Can't say there are without challenges with a older-woman-younger-man relationship, but don't all relationships come with some challenges?
sgbabydoll
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They are still married but I do not know if they are happily married.
my aunt is 11 years older than my uncle-in-law. they have 2 children, grown up now, and their family relationship is superb. however when they were younger there WERE many tongues wagging over the man marrying a 'lao char bor'. but maybe that's the past. i believe generations these days are more open minded.
sgbabydoll
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Cougar, why do you need the society to accept such a relationship?
sgbabydoll
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Cougar does carry a negative connotation. However, it is a word widely recognised to describe a mature woman in a relationship with a much younger man. It reflects society's disapproving view of such a relationship.
sgbabydoll
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The age difference between the older woman and younger man, though not official, is understood to be at least 10 years. However, it is usually to describe women over 40 years old.
How much older were those mature women you have encountered, Kenturik?
How much older were those mature women you have encountered, Kenturik?
Well at least 8 to 12years my senior. But I guess it is not the age that matters, it is how they carry themselves both physically and mentally. How they engage you in a conversation and how they present themselves which has been an attraction always. Still "Cougar" though widely accepted or published, I still find it negative and an unfair term to use. My thoughts only.
sgbabydoll
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I agree that it's not a nice word. It's labelling. But it's like the word "gay" that describes homosexual persons. It was not a nice word to begin with but over the years, it's become acceptable as the society takes a less hostile view of people who prefer a same-sex partner. I am sure some homosexual people are now proud or unbashful of their sexual preference.