Yup. I have gone through it. Let me share mine wif u:
First, I got the hair combing stuff from the GDL shop. The shop auntie advised us on the combing steps (Like yi shu, shu dao wei, er shu, shu dao etc...). The combing items mus be all new, never use b4.
Before that I got my god mum to choose an auspicious time for the session by checking the tong shu. Mine was done the nite b4, (some I heard do it b4 they put on their bridal veil).
On the hair combing session, my godmum ( the person who do the hair combing for u must be someone who is still married.) prepared the combing items - comb, mirror, red thread, ruler, all items placed in a mug of rice. 3 bowls of tang yuan wif 9 tang yuan in each bowl to be placed at our 3 ancestors tablets. Then made me sit in a chair in facing the ancestors, lighted the dragon & phoenix candle and start the session when the auspicious time is up.
Most important note to take note: The hair combing session mus be done on both sides (bride & groom). Cannot be only one-sided do the session only, & not the other party. The time mus be also the same. So u n hubby mus synchronize the timing, and comb at the same time.
Hi Vanilla thanks for sharing this info with me...just check with u arr...if my husband just has his uncle as the only relative, can he ask his uncle who is still a single to comb for him...then if both side comb hair same time, wat is the significance?
Hmmm not sure abt having men to do the combing, but I know combing used to be done by the 'mei po' or mum. Definitely cant be someone who is single & unmarried. I din ask y mus comb both at the same time, but I think since its a marriage, its symbolize a joining of two ppl, so mus do together lor, cant do it all alone. Very useful information I've found on the net:
This is a ceremony that is usually held on the wedding eve, and both the bride and the groom will have their own separate ceremonies at their own homes. They will change into white pyjamas (the bride will also have to wear a new pair of slipper during the whole ceremony) and then pray to the heavens and their ancestors before sitting in front of a small table mirror. The bride should face out of the house while the groom should face in. Usually the respective parents will comb their children's hair 3 times while reciting this ancient litany :
First comb to comb till the end
Second comb to bring love and respect till old age
Third comb to bring lots of children and grandchildren
After the combing, the couple has to eat glutinous rice balls which symbolize togetherness.
This whole ceremony symbolizes the coming-of-age of the bride and the groom. This would explain why most chinese parents only consider their children grownups when they get married.
One thing the article mentioned which is very important is the direction where the bride/groom is sitting. Oh and for me, before the session, i have to use pomelo leaves to bath too.
Katherine, depending on ur dialect group, is it a mus to do it? If yes, then have to find a auntie to do it, if its not a must, then maybe can 'cut-short' the procedure.
From my understanding, the combing have to do it on a auspicious timing. Mus check the tong shu or ur geomancer. So if urs is the nite b4 or on the actual day, do it at tat timing given to u. For eg. I have to do mine between 1am - 3am (anytime between 1am to 3am is considered auspicious), so i did it at 1.30am.
I got a qn. So I must have the combing session before the MUA put on the veil or can she fix on the veil, then my mum "action" like combing my hair, then cover the veil? Because I don't think MUA can wait until the session is over then fix on the veil for me.
Hi, does anyone know if the lighting of the dragon and phoenix candles is a religious/ancestral thing or a chinese tradition? My family is Catholic while my FH's family is Buddhist and they insist they we burn the candles, but my mum is not comfortable with it. Just need to clarify, thanks.
hi all, few questions regarding this ceremony:
1)if no altar table/ancestral tablet @ home, do i still need prepare 3 sets of tang yuan?
2)referring to 1, still need dragon & phoneix candles?
3) is the direction one's facing still important or just face the door where moon suppose to be? if no moon, dun matter right
the tang yuan other family member can eat also? after groom/bride eat 1st?