Catholic Brides

[elisawang]

Oops. 1 more question. When do you gals intend to put up the church deco? As there will be 2 masses before the wedding and only 1.5hr apart from the end of the last mass to the wedding time, should I put the deco the night before or after all the masses. But was afraid the deco will be messed up by kids after 2 masses.

 

[fairybride]

Hi all brides to be,

Anyone had their wedding at Queen of Peace before? How much did it cost you to decorate the church? Also, I am thinking of the following sequence for the day, do you think it is ok?

8am Groom Pick Bride
9am Go to Groom's House + Tea Ceremony
10am Go to new house
1030am Go to church
1130am Church Ceremony
1pm Go to groom's house + reception + mingle for a while
2pm Go to Bride's house + reception + Tea Ceremony
End Of Day 1

 

[ocean_blue]

Hi Elisa,
Usually, the decorations will be shared by the couples to cut down cost and save time. So you may want to contact the couple before you to check with them their theme/deco details.

Hi Mrs Foo,
Just a qn. Why do you have to go to your new house first? Saves alot of time if you go straight to church from the groom's place unless you are intending to get your HTB to leave your new house for church first and you come along later in another car with the man (your dad, elder brother/cousin, uncle) who will be giving you away. Otherwise, it's also weird that the 2 of you appear at church at the same time when your HTB is suppose to be waiting for you at the altar while you walk down the aisle. Perhaps, you may want to have reception in church so that you get to mingle with relatives from groom's side and friends while your parents' side proceed back to their place first and prepare for the tea ceremony. Prepare another buffet for this gp of relatives at your parents' place. This way, you don't have to travel so much i.e. from church to groom's place to bride's place. It's very tiring and inconvenient, I feel. Just my thoughts

 

[ocean_blue]

For those who DIY their mass booklets, can share with me how did you do it? Did you print it at home or bring it to the printer?

 

[fairybride]

Hi Ocean

Go to new house is part of the tradition isn't it? Then will have a toddler boy to "jump on the bed"? As for going to the church together, I guess it is ok bah, I would probably be waiting in the room and my hubby would be outside then I walk in when the ceremony start. As for the reception, the reason why I want to have it at both places is because if have at church, it will be very limited time, probably just 1hour after the mass ends, I would rather hve it at home so that people can mingle around longer. In fact all 4 places are very close to each other, my house to church, can walk, or just 3mins drive, my house to his house, 15mins max, his house to our new house, 5mins drive so that's why I arranged it this way.. sounds logical?

 

[ocean_blue]

Hi Mrs Foo,

Actually, the day's sequence is up to you to decide and yours seem ok since all the places are so near each other. Some couples have the tea ceremony at their new house as well so that everything can be done at 1 place.

 

[fairybride]

Heheheh ok..anyway thanks!

 

[c00kiemonster]

hello, need some advise here.. would like to check how many pageboys n flowergirls do u all hav? i have in mind 1 boy n 2 girls now but not sure would it be better to have them in pairs?

 

[necrosis]

hi blessings,

if i remember correctly, you booked Sacred Heart for your wedding?
i just signed up with Richard over the weekend (wah, he's so muscular!)
and he mentioned that the new building is due to be completed in Dec.
maybe not even in time for my wedding (20th dec).

if you were counting on using that place for the parking or the new hall, better check with him again.
at least if you know earlier, can make plans for contingencies.

 

[bluebearypie]

Hi cookiemonster,

I had actually planned to have 1 each, but in the end, both had cold feet so I ended up having my bridesmaids walk down the aisle before me.

So I guess there's really no hard and fast rule. Which ever you feel comfortable with

 

[blessingsincounting]

Hi Nec,

Yap. He's one very macho man consider for a parish sec.

Huh...Aiyo....not ready yet...hmm...

Then I gotta start bugging him tmr liao. He didn't tell us of any changes in the intial plan. It's stated really by May/ June 08.

But no choice as we booked last year Aug. My parish St Bernadette is confirm going for major reno and no air con. Guess those folks gotta find their own parking lots liao...ZZZ...

Thanks Nec for letting me know early. Now gotta tell FH. God bless for yr kindness ;-)

Happy CNY!

 

[elfrushi]

Hi Ocean Blue

I DIY-ed my Mass booklets for my wedding. Just printed at home including the covers (did up a simple one with a slightly thicker coloured paper) & all done up by hubby & me. The coloured paper can be found at any major stationery store in a packet form.

 

[necrosis]

hi blessings,
no prob.
we both pray that the renov will be done soon so that can finish on time lor.

Richard did mention some places to park...behind the church, some condo...??
or park mall shopping center?

regarding mass booklets,
are there fixed readings/responsorials psalms/ intentions for wedding mass?
or we suka suka pick those we like?
hymns?

mmm....wedding appropriate hymns??
dum dum di dum..? lol

 

[elfrushi]

Hi Nec

You may speak to the celebrant of your wedding Mass on the appropriate readings/responsorials psalms/intentions to use. Our priest lent us a Wedding Mass booklet, in which the readings/responsorials psalms/intentions can be chosen from there.

As for the hymns, I choose from my church hymn book. My friend commentator also helped in suggesting the hymns as well which was helpful.

My hubby sang a hymn "The Wedding" for my march-in & we also sang the thanksgiving hymn "Thank U Lord" together.

 

[necrosis]

elfrishi,
so sweet, singing together!!!
however, if i start singing, there would be chaos since everyone will try to rush out of the building asap.
=)

mmm..i havent asked any particular priest to be my celebrant...

 

[elfrushi]

Nec,

You may want to seriously look for a priest that you are comfortable with & book him early.

I was fortunate to have Fr Loiseau as our wedding celebrant & he knew our family personally. And he was the one who encouraged my hubby to go for RCIA as he knew that he was interested in the catholic faith from the conversations he had with him.

 

[necrosis]

elfrushi,

i'm not a very regular church go-er for quite a few years liao.
no particular priest in mind unless fr my younger days.
and my FH is not catholic (he's hindu)so no preference from that side either.

i just want a priest whose sermon is not sleep-inducing and who can touch the hearts of the non-catholics (quite a lot) who will attend my wedding.

 

[elisawang]

Hi. Is it a must to have a bridesmaid for the church wedding? Was not planning on having 1 but would it be weird? Maybe just have a pageboy and a flowergirl.

 

[elfrushi]

Nec, u may consider the priests from Novena Church.

 

[necrosis]

elisawang,

bridesmaid is not a must, up to you, but usually it's one of your 'sisters'...

everything is really up to you, you want 100 flowergirls also can. (just the march in will take a long time...lol)

 

[bluebearypie]

Hi elisa,

Nope, bridesmaid totally not necessary. I didn't plan to have them walk down, until my pageboy and flowergirl got cold feet and pulled out on me...

 

[elfrushi]

Hi elisa

I didnt have a bridesmaid, just had a bride helper.

It's up to your preference & affordability as well.

 

[elisawang]

thanks girls. think i'll go find a pageboy and flowergirl. think they are cuter too.

 

[graciie23]

I've booked my EE for June 13 - 15. Anyone is in that EE?

We're having our wedding in Church of the Holy Family. Have attended kindergarten there, had my baptism and confirmation there as well. My fiance is a non-Catholic.

Could someone advise the time difference between a wedding mass vs a wedding service? All I know is that a wedding service does not have eucharist celebration.

 

[necrosis]

hello gracie,

enjoy your EE.
i've attended mine in Jan and twas wonderful

God bless...

my FH is non-catholic too.
but seems like we're able to have a wedding mass.
rather than service.

service is also shorter and mainly consists of the wedding vows part.

 

[ocean_blue]

Hi gracie, wedding service is 45mins whereas wedding mass is an hr.

Hi nec, have u managed to get a church yet? From my understanding, a wedding b/t catholic and a non-catholic would comprise of a wedding service not mass. Best to check with your priest again

 

[ocean_blue]

Hi Elisa,

You may still want to consider getting a bride helper of sorts because you still need to have someone to help you to hold your makeup, lipstick, tissue paper, etc. Depending on your preference, your bridesmaid/helper will also help to hold your bouquet when you walked to the altar though some prefer to have the bouquet with them but it all depends on how much space is the kneeler that your church will be providing you with. Usually, it's abit 'dangerous' to have the bouquet with you as it may drop due to space constraint so a maid helper would need to help u to hold on to it for the duration of the mass/service and pass it back to you before you walk down the aisle out of the church. Just my 2 cents worth

 

[bluebearypie]

Hi nec,
My husband was non-catholic but we went ahead with a wedding mass. Our priest didn't say we couldn't. So I agree with Ocean_blue, check with your priest.

 

[starwavez]

hey graciie, we'd also be having EE over 13-15jun.

similarly, my FH is non-catholic.

haven booked the church tho. haha. when will ur wedding be?

 

[elfrushi]

Hi Nec

Mine was also a wedding Mass. My priest explained that as my hubby was attending RCIA at that time & was to be baptised 5mths later, he's was ok to celebrate the Mass for us. He also said the upon my hubby's baptism, the sacrament (of matrimony) will be received automatically for hubby.

I think whether the priest celebrates a mass or service will depend on each case.

Did you approach any priest for your wedding yet?

=)

 

[graciie23]

Hi Shan
We'll be seeing each other at EE then

My AD is on October 25, 2008.


Hi nec & Ocean_blue
Thanks for the advice. Have checked with the parish secretary, service is much shorter around 1/2 hour coz mass is about 45mins (similar to Sunday Mass).

I was advised to consider a service instead coz I have only direct families attending and both sides are not Catholics. Only my mom and my uncle are Catholics. But I was told to check directly with Father if he can "incorporate" the Eucharist Celebration into the service.

 

[fairybride]

Hi Gals,

Got some questions regarding new house to check with you

1) As we are Catholics, not supposed to believe in stuff like Fengshui etc, as such, did any of you still went ahead to engage one for your house?

2) How do you set up the alter in your house? I am the only catholic in my entire extended family, so I am quite clueless in this. Any pics to share on your current alter?

3) Did you get a priest to bless the house? If so, do we have to give the priest an ang pao and around how much?

Will add on when I think of more

 

[starwavez]

Hey Gracie,

U got blessings from your in-laws to have a church wedding? That's very sweet. I m gonna face an uphill task for mine. Personally, it is very significant to me. So i guess I'll put up a fight for it! Haha.

Mrs Foo,

I think an altar and house blessing is essential. The altar can be a simple one need not necessarily follow the conventional on the walls kind As for fengshui, it's really up to you.

 

[momo23]

hi all,
just to share my own experience with u gals! Had my church wedding, which is a mass even though i am not a Catholic but my hubby is. Really depends on priest i guess..
For bridesmaid or flower girl/boy, i had the latter.. it was really cute to have them walking in front .. best to have them aroudn the age of 4-5.. cute yet brave to walk down the aisle first. Infact, i had them to walk down the aisle during my wedding dinner night... whereby the place was even more crowded and dark (during the 1st march in)

 

[papaya123]

my FH is a non-catholic too. When i called to book the church, the priest did ask if my FH is a catholic. However, he did not mention if it would be a service.

Better double check with him!

 

[elfrushi]

Hi Mrs Foo

Think it's good to talk to a priest for his advice on your situation. I have an aquaintance who did not have an altar in her place as she was the only catholic in the family as well.

 

[bmk]

Hi gals, anyone getting married or who got married in St Francis Xavier? I am getting married in St Francis Xavier this November. Am not from the parish so not familiar with the church. Am looking for recommendations for church choir and florist? Not sure if I should use the church's florist or get my own. grateful if someone could share their experiences. thanks!

 

[necrosis]

mmm...never occured to me the little ones would be shy/scared to walk down the aisle...


havnet short list any priests yet...any recommendations welcome....those funny funny sermons kind please!!

 

[graceyong]

Hi nec, do you have msn? would like to chat wtih you more on Sacred heart. if so please add me [email protected]

I am planning my church wedding in december too, probraly 1-2 weeks earlier than yours. So i just wnat to share some thoughts with you, for example: the reception area, would you be using it? It is 3 level, would it be inconvenient for old people? Choir? Father? I would also be doing my ROM part in the church, are u doing the same?

Gosh, besides this, i got another major issue that I don't think NONE OF YOU GIRLS would have.

My wedding dress - cannot be white colour!!! Arghhh.. bcause i have my customary wedding and wore the white gown, my in laws don't let me wear white gown again (saying it is bad omen , like i am marrying twice) harlow!!!

Kinda stress out now.... going koo koo soon...

God please guide me through this!!!

 

[starwavez]

hey girls, i'd like to ask, how long in advance must the booking of the church be made? any idea how much is st anne's rental? tks =)

 

[elfrushi]

Hi Shan

Most of my friends & me booked about 1 year in advance. Will have to be earlier for those dates that are hot.

 

[necrosis]

hi shan,
do book early...so as to avoid some unpleasentness that can occur if you dont put the deposit soon...

rentals are usually 200-400, depending on the church, usually exclude reception hall...
that's another 300-400 or more....depending on canteen or aircon area...

 

[graciie23]

Hi Shan

Have a word with the parish secretary first and see if you can make appointment to see the Father. My AD is in end Oct and I've just spoken to my Parish Priest last week and confirmed the Church and EE bookings at the same time. Not sure if the "Love Offering" for different parish is the same or diff. They don't call it rental, unless you're renting the reception hall after the mass/service. And my solemnisation will also be done at the same time in the Church (so I free up a slot in my evening program).

For me, I'm keeping my Church wedding really simple. It's probably going to be less than 20 people who aren't Catholics and I'm not gg for any pew decors. There won't be any reception coz after the mass/service, I'll have to continue with my tea ceremony at my place.

My EE is confirmed the same weekend as yours so we'll see you there

 

[graciie23]

Hi nec

I've already booked the date and time for my Church wedding, but I don't have to give my "Love Offering" until just 3 months before my AD. I clarified this with my Parish Secretary and it's also found on my Parish wedding checklist.

So ya, the priority is to book the Church early so you can also pick your choice timings.

 

[roomfulofstars]

graceyong - How about OFF-white? Or a champagne color?

 

[graceyong]

hi femme, i am thinking of so. but deep in my heart, i still want white. And I have a feeling that even champagne colour would be Not Ok for my in laws side and the best prat is, my in laws are buddist why do they care so much about my church wedding?

many ppl wear white on their ROM also right?

 

[necrosis]

grace,

actually off white or champagne is supposed to be more flattering colours for our asian skin tone...cos we're yellow-based.
why dont you try a few gowns of that color vs a pure white one...
maybe you'll like it?
(and trying is free!!)

 

[graceyong]

i have suggested to hubby already, off white or champagne but he say is close to white, why not wear something colourful? my in laws side say choose pink colour .... arghhh!!!

 

[graceyong]

i have suggested to hubby already, off white or champagne but he say is close to white, why not wear something colourful? my in laws side say choose pink colour .... arghhh!!!

 

[graceyong]

girls, can someone send me a picture of what a off-white colour is? I am having a bit of a hard time explaining to my hubby what is off-white colour means.

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