Catholic Brides
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hippoeeyore
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Hi all,
Anyone of u hv a sample of the church invites? I duno wher to start???
Help..can send to [email protected]
Thanks a million
Anyone of u hv a sample of the church invites? I duno wher to start???
Help..can send to [email protected]
Thanks a million
Hi,
I had my wedding mass at St. Anne's last Dec on Boxing Day. It was a great celebration despite it raining the entire day.
I've scanned my mass bulletin and placed it on my website. Thought I'd drop the link here in case you gals need to look at samples. http://leonchris.bravehost.com/bulletin.html
Hope the bulletin helps!
I had my wedding mass at St. Anne's last Dec on Boxing Day. It was a great celebration despite it raining the entire day.
Hope the bulletin helps!
snowball05
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Hi everyone...
I'm planning for my wedding in Jan 08. I thought its still too early but mum had been nagging at me to go book the church. Here lies the question.
My HTB is a PR so he is not "registered" in any of Sg churches. i.e he doesnt have his own parish church. I "grew up" in OLPS but had been attending Holy trinity.
For our wedding, we plan to hold it at Nativity church cos my HTB's relatives stay in Serangoon and many of them are quite old (like 70 and above)so its easier for them.
Am I allowed to be married in a church that is not my parish? Also, I like to have Fr Richard Ambrose but he is at Holy Cross, would that be a problem?
cheers
I'm planning for my wedding in Jan 08. I thought its still too early but mum had been nagging at me to go book the church. Here lies the question.
My HTB is a PR so he is not "registered" in any of Sg churches. i.e he doesnt have his own parish church. I "grew up" in OLPS but had been attending Holy trinity.
For our wedding, we plan to hold it at Nativity church cos my HTB's relatives stay in Serangoon and many of them are quite old (like 70 and above)so its easier for them.
Am I allowed to be married in a church that is not my parish? Also, I like to have Fr Richard Ambrose but he is at Holy Cross, would that be a problem?
cheers
snowball05
New Member
Hi Diamond,
Thanks for ur reply. HTB stays Serangoon area hence Nativity. Will go email Fr Ambrose...hope he remembers me.
Then have to go book the EE to attend too.
Thanks for ur reply. HTB stays Serangoon area hence Nativity. Will go email Fr Ambrose...hope he remembers me.
Then have to go book the EE to attend too.
hi snowzie,
I just held my wedding at the Church of the Nativity of the Blessed Virgin Mary at Upper Serangon on 06 Jan '07.
My experience with the admin (Lucy) is that your HTB's parish church has to be Nativity or else Lucy will advise you to go back to his parish church to hold the wedding. She is quite particular about this...so need to check with her in details.
I just held my wedding at the Church of the Nativity of the Blessed Virgin Mary at Upper Serangon on 06 Jan '07.
My experience with the admin (Lucy) is that your HTB's parish church has to be Nativity or else Lucy will advise you to go back to his parish church to hold the wedding. She is quite particular about this...so need to check with her in details.
bluebearypie
Member
snowzie,
suparcat is right about the parish church. Most of them are quite particular such that they will ask if you are a parishioner. Do check out which church your HTB's address falls under. If it is Nativity, you will have no problems. Good luck! Do let us know your result.
Please book early ok? It makes life easier.
suparcat is right about the parish church. Most of them are quite particular such that they will ask if you are a parishioner. Do check out which church your HTB's address falls under. If it is Nativity, you will have no problems. Good luck! Do let us know your result.
Please book early ok? It makes life easier.
snowize, the girls were right & they explained clearer than me.... fifi was good... "geographical boundary" was the words!
that was why i asked you where your hubby stay according to his NRIC...
h/w, there is always an exception. my HB stays in serangoon gardens. so we had our wedding at St Francis Xavier (SFX). the couple in the earlier session were not living in the geograpical boundary of SFX also.. but they were married in SFX...
best is talk to the secretariat. if not to the priest if u know him. ultimately, the priest has the final say... my priest was a very chingchye guy.. he told me, a non-catholic couple approached him to be the soleminiser of their wedding at a hotel.. he said he did it for them too..
that was why i asked you where your hubby stay according to his NRIC...
h/w, there is always an exception. my HB stays in serangoon gardens. so we had our wedding at St Francis Xavier (SFX). the couple in the earlier session were not living in the geograpical boundary of SFX also.. but they were married in SFX...
best is talk to the secretariat. if not to the priest if u know him. ultimately, the priest has the final say... my priest was a very chingchye guy.. he told me, a non-catholic couple approached him to be the soleminiser of their wedding at a hotel.. he said he did it for them too..
snowball05
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Hello ladies, thanks for your advice.
My HTB's NRIC add is considered serangoon area, so i hope that's okie. Yup, I will try go book early. Will certainly update you.
But I find it sad that churches make such clear demarcation. Aint all churches the house of God?...
My HTB's NRIC add is considered serangoon area, so i hope that's okie. Yup, I will try go book early. Will certainly update you.
But I find it sad that churches make such clear demarcation. Aint all churches the house of God?...
hi hi, some churches are ok with 'outsiders' marrying in their churches so long as one of them is a catholic. I'm not from SFX but so long as the parish priest allows, no problem
So ask the parish priest if you need help in getting approval. The secretariat can't decide one.
snowball05
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hi diamond. okie thankies..me and htb are both catholics just that he is Malaysian...so wasnt baptised here. He needs to show proof of batism rite?
snowzie, yes u are right. he needs to call the church where he is batisped for the baptism cert. this cert cannot be dated more than 6 mths from the church wedding date (NOT ROM date okie, church does not recognise ROM as married). this is to assure that he has not been married before.
there is no need to get another confirmation cert. reason being, the baptism cert is issued by the church he is baptised. and on the cert, it shows his baptism date and the church name & date where he received confirmation. the baptism cert also needs not state "free to marry". it can write in any other statement which will mean he has not ever gotten married before. eg, "no marriage record to-date".
anyhow, there is no need to check the baptism cert for that clause la. the church knows the reason u ask for the abstract of the baptism cert is because your HTB wants to get married in church. so if he has ever married before, the church will not issue such a cert.
not just your HTB, you also need to go to your batpism church & request an abstract for yourself since u are also a catholic.
snowzie, just go & book a date with the church u intend to hold your wedding at la. the church will give u a checklist on what needs to be furnished in order to get married in church. it will be clearer to u. waste so much time asking qns now later cannot get the slot & day u wan... good dates are snatched up very fast. booked leow, & the checklist is not clear than u find out more loh
there is no need to get another confirmation cert. reason being, the baptism cert is issued by the church he is baptised. and on the cert, it shows his baptism date and the church name & date where he received confirmation. the baptism cert also needs not state "free to marry". it can write in any other statement which will mean he has not ever gotten married before. eg, "no marriage record to-date".
anyhow, there is no need to check the baptism cert for that clause la. the church knows the reason u ask for the abstract of the baptism cert is because your HTB wants to get married in church. so if he has ever married before, the church will not issue such a cert.
not just your HTB, you also need to go to your batpism church & request an abstract for yourself since u are also a catholic.
snowzie, just go & book a date with the church u intend to hold your wedding at la. the church will give u a checklist on what needs to be furnished in order to get married in church. it will be clearer to u. waste so much time asking qns now later cannot get the slot & day u wan... good dates are snatched up very fast. booked leow, & the checklist is not clear than u find out more loh
Hi Girls,
I need some advise. Am born out in a cathoilc faith. Last year when i start prepa for my wedding i asked my mum for my baptise cert and she told me that i have not been baptise yet. I was so shock and cry the whole night. Thks Lord, am attending RCIA classes now and getting baptise by this year Easter 7 April, but my confirmation be at 3 Jun. My wedding date at 22 Dec 07.
I plan to get marry in my church at St Francis of Assisi. I have asked our church admin, and she say it too early to make an appointment with Father John. She said close to my wedding ard 6 mth then we arrange with an appointment with Father John. And by the way, she still stated in the diary on our wedding date. Am not sure if that consider booked for our wedding bcos she didnt took any deposit from us. Does we have to meet my Father John to book for the church or she can do it?
Am kind of worry, bcos my confirmation is on 3 Jun and it less then 6 mth away. Will our church still allow me to marry out in my church? Or sld i make an appointment and see Father John before my confirmation? Pls advise me... Thks a million!
I need some advise. Am born out in a cathoilc faith. Last year when i start prepa for my wedding i asked my mum for my baptise cert and she told me that i have not been baptise yet. I was so shock and cry the whole night. Thks Lord, am attending RCIA classes now and getting baptise by this year Easter 7 April, but my confirmation be at 3 Jun. My wedding date at 22 Dec 07.
I plan to get marry in my church at St Francis of Assisi. I have asked our church admin, and she say it too early to make an appointment with Father John. She said close to my wedding ard 6 mth then we arrange with an appointment with Father John. And by the way, she still stated in the diary on our wedding date. Am not sure if that consider booked for our wedding bcos she didnt took any deposit from us. Does we have to meet my Father John to book for the church or she can do it?
Am kind of worry, bcos my confirmation is on 3 Jun and it less then 6 mth away. Will our church still allow me to marry out in my church? Or sld i make an appointment and see Father John before my confirmation? Pls advise me... Thks a million!
bluebearypie
Member
Hi Haze,
I think the church admin may have thought that the appointment with Father John was for the pre-nup inquiry. So maybe that's why she said it's too early for the appointment.
As for the booking, my church (IHM) was the same. They didn't collect any deposit from us as it was my brother who actually helped submit the form. The church admin are the ones who do the booking of the church.
If you're worried about whether the church will allow to marry out of the church (which personally I think there will not be a problem), talk to Father John. Let him address all your concerns.
I think the church admin may have thought that the appointment with Father John was for the pre-nup inquiry. So maybe that's why she said it's too early for the appointment.
As for the booking, my church (IHM) was the same. They didn't collect any deposit from us as it was my brother who actually helped submit the form. The church admin are the ones who do the booking of the church.
If you're worried about whether the church will allow to marry out of the church (which personally I think there will not be a problem), talk to Father John. Let him address all your concerns.
hi haze,
1) for your baptism issue, its ok.. no worries..
2) to make sure u get father john, just go up to him after mass one day and tell him that you hope to have him to solemnise your wedding.. as least u 'book' him directly... then from there, u can explain your situation to him.. its ok one
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1) for your baptism issue, its ok.. no worries..
2) to make sure u get father john, just go up to him after mass one day and tell him that you hope to have him to solemnise your wedding.. as least u 'book' him directly... then from there, u can explain your situation to him.. its ok one
Hi BBP,
We didnt submit any form to her. As she say it too early. Instead she give us the form and never say anything. Sld i write the form down and pass it to her?
Hi Minssy,
As i have not even baptism yet. So i dun dare to look for Father John. In fact i wanted my own RCIA Father Bris to do the mass for us. But that day we having solemnising ROM so only Father John can do it. So i kind of blur. *SOB*
We didnt submit any form to her. As she say it too early. Instead she give us the form and never say anything. Sld i write the form down and pass it to her?
Hi Minssy,
As i have not even baptism yet. So i dun dare to look for Father John. In fact i wanted my own RCIA Father Bris to do the mass for us. But that day we having solemnising ROM so only Father John can do it. So i kind of blur. *SOB*
haze, am not sure why your secretariat said is too early. i booked my slot for dec 06 wedding on jan 06. our secretariat nv say too early. she even told me her own wedding yrs back she even booked much earlier than us as her wedding day is a very auspicious & good day!
Hi baihuayou,
Hope this does not come too late for you, but in my impression, there's no separate confirmation course for adults. Rather, adults who want to be confirmed have to attend RCIA. That's what happened for my batch of RCIY (Youth instead of Adult). One of the participants was baptised but not confirmed.
Hope this does not come too late for you, but in my impression, there's no separate confirmation course for adults. Rather, adults who want to be confirmed have to attend RCIA. That's what happened for my batch of RCIY (Youth instead of Adult). One of the participants was baptised but not confirmed.
I saw some discussions on whether you can get married in a church where you're not a parishioner. Just to share what I saw on my church's website:
"To cover the utility costs of air-conditioning, floral decorations and other operating expenses, a donation of $600.00 ($1000 for Non-parishioners) is requested."
From this, it does seem to imply that non-parishioners CAN get married in the church as well.
"To cover the utility costs of air-conditioning, floral decorations and other operating expenses, a donation of $600.00 ($1000 for Non-parishioners) is requested."
From this, it does seem to imply that non-parishioners CAN get married in the church as well.
hi haze,
i heard of 2 fathers doing the same mass together.. its not that common but was done before. its a matter of whether the priests are ok to do it.. so no matter what, u still gotta look for them and check.. best is to have the personal touch checking with them in person..
i heard of 2 fathers doing the same mass together.. its not that common but was done before. its a matter of whether the priests are ok to do it.. so no matter what, u still gotta look for them and check.. best is to have the personal touch checking with them in person..
purpleclouds
New Member
Anyone had their church wedding at St Vincent De Paul Church?I'm intending to ROM + church wedding together..
What is the amount that we typically pay the church to hold the wedding? Is the wedding decor included in the amount too?
What is the amount that we typically pay the church to hold the wedding? Is the wedding decor included in the amount too?
purpleclouds, the booking fee for the church hall & canteen vary from church to church. some church charges as much as $500-600 for the church hall.. i heard of $1k booking charge also. for my case, my HB's church charges $100 for the church hall & $150 for the canteen.
church decor are generally not included in the booking fees.
church decor are generally not included in the booking fees.
purpleclouds
New Member
thanks diamond, which church are you from?
hi ben: when is ur AD? mine will be in feb 08. do let me know what are charges like for SVDP.
hi ben: when is ur AD? mine will be in feb 08. do let me know what are charges like for SVDP.
hi haze,
I had 2 priests celebrating my wedding mass. Just gotta check with both priests if they are ok with the arrangement. Maybe also indicate to them who you would prefer to have to do the solemnization for you...
Well, it's never too late to be baptised. Perhaps you should clarify with the church secretariat if that constitutes booking the church, when to pay deposit etc. Perhaps like what bbp mentioned, the secretariat may have been referring to the pre-nup enquiry (though I only did my pre-nup 1 mth before AD...hahaha)
Hi purpleclouds,
SVDP...they just renovated it or something like that right? cool...Well, my fren who had his there last month didn't mention about the amount, but he mentioned that deco is not included in the fees (unlike SMOTA where deco is included).
I had 2 priests celebrating my wedding mass. Just gotta check with both priests if they are ok with the arrangement. Maybe also indicate to them who you would prefer to have to do the solemnization for you...
Well, it's never too late to be baptised. Perhaps you should clarify with the church secretariat if that constitutes booking the church, when to pay deposit etc. Perhaps like what bbp mentioned, the secretariat may have been referring to the pre-nup enquiry (though I only did my pre-nup 1 mth before AD...hahaha)
Hi purpleclouds,
SVDP...they just renovated it or something like that right? cool...Well, my fren who had his there last month didn't mention about the amount, but he mentioned that deco is not included in the fees (unlike SMOTA where deco is included).
bluebearypie
Member
Wow, SMOTA actually includes deco? Explains why their booking fee is substantially higher than the rest of the churches.
Haze,
I agree with CSI Fan. Just go check with both priests as to whether the arrangement you want is possible. Better to get this resolved as soon as possible. Hope to hear good news from you
Haze,
I agree with CSI Fan. Just go check with both priests as to whether the arrangement you want is possible. Better to get this resolved as soon as possible. Hope to hear good news from you
Hi Girls,
My church secretariat is not that friendly. Whatever i try to ask her sometime, she seems wan to push me away. There one time when i ask her abt which priest will attend to me. She ans very loudly, i thought i told u it father john! Then she turn to her staff and scream at her, bcos she accidently slam on the fax machine. Even my bf feel that she very rude. So each time i wan to ask her sometime my mind totally blank.
So far she only pass me a form and didn't take it from us. She just add in our date in her diary. Does that consider booked altot we havent pass her the form?
For the solemnization, i heard from the secretariat say only Father John can do it for us. For the Mass i like to ask my RCIA Father Bris to do it for us. I will have a 2nd interview for my baptise with Father Bris, so from there i will ask him. Oh.. i also ask secretariat to make an appointment for us with Father John. She just say it too early and ask us to book with Father John 6 mth before my wedding. Am stuck in between. She just dun wish to make an appointment for us. Hai...
My church secretariat is not that friendly. Whatever i try to ask her sometime, she seems wan to push me away. There one time when i ask her abt which priest will attend to me. She ans very loudly, i thought i told u it father john! Then she turn to her staff and scream at her, bcos she accidently slam on the fax machine. Even my bf feel that she very rude. So each time i wan to ask her sometime my mind totally blank.
So far she only pass me a form and didn't take it from us. She just add in our date in her diary. Does that consider booked altot we havent pass her the form?
For the solemnization, i heard from the secretariat say only Father John can do it for us. For the Mass i like to ask my RCIA Father Bris to do it for us. I will have a 2nd interview for my baptise with Father Bris, so from there i will ask him. Oh.. i also ask secretariat to make an appointment for us with Father John. She just say it too early and ask us to book with Father John 6 mth before my wedding. Am stuck in between. She just dun wish to make an appointment for us. Hai...
<font color="119911">hi Haze, have you confirmed your booking for the church venue? If you have, then don't bother about her. Go directly to the parish priest of the church (whom I gather is Father John?) and ask him for permission for Father Bris to do your wedding for you. USUALLY they are ok with the idea. If you don't want to push the limits then get both of them involved. Don't rely on the secretariat to do it for you. BTW, are you referring to christ the king?</font>
purpleclouds
New Member
CSI Fan: Yep SVDP just renovated their building. Kinda homely feeling and i'm pretty comfortable with the 2 priests there (Father Mike & Albert) although i have been going to Christ the King since birth as i used to live in AMK.
I understand that the girl's side will determine which church to hold the wedding ceremony and i live in YCK, so it'll be SVDP.
Ben: Nice date, alot of people are marrying on 7 July!
Haze: The secretary is rude and unhelpful, sigh! I think u better speak to the parish priest better so that you can have a peace of mind. Hopefully you can catch him after the mass. .
I understand that the girl's side will determine which church to hold the wedding ceremony and i live in YCK, so it'll be SVDP.
Ben: Nice date, alot of people are marrying on 7 July!
Haze: The secretary is rude and unhelpful, sigh! I think u better speak to the parish priest better so that you can have a peace of mind. Hopefully you can catch him after the mass. .
hi purpleclouds,
yap, usually it's the girl's side that determines which church...coz you're supposed to make it easier for the bride to travel to church...but there's no hard and fast rule.
For us, we decided to go with hubby's parish...mainly for asthetic purposes. hahaha. Thankfully, it wasn't too far away from my parent's home.
Although in the process, we decided we don't like the sacristian. 
yap, usually it's the girl's side that determines which church...coz you're supposed to make it easier for the bride to travel to church...but there's no hard and fast rule.
Hi Tea,
Deco - engaged our own. My mother's fren, who's also a Catholic.
Choir - also enlisted the help of frens who are part of their choirs in their own parishes.
Priests - we had 2 priests. Main celebrant is Fr. Anselm from SPP, con-celebrant & solemniser is Fr. Arro.
from our experience, the church florist charged quite expensive...esp for the kinds and amounts of items she was giving us. Not sure if she has revised her quote now...
Choir, well...can't help u there.
We absolutely loved our own choir. heehee...oh, but I understand that from now on, if u want to use the LCD TVs, you have to engage the church choir ($250) and an additional $50. If church choir was not engaged, then it will be $100 to use the LCD TV.
Rehearsal timings...the sacristian is pretty sticky with the timing. 630pm to 730pm. If it stretches beyond that, be prepared for her super black face. (when she first meets u, it's already not-so-friendly lah). Church deco...she also controls the timing to put up the deco very strictly. Not sure if that would be the case for couples who engage the church florist.
Anything else I can help you with, just post here or PM me.
Deco - engaged our own. My mother's fren, who's also a Catholic.
Choir - also enlisted the help of frens who are part of their choirs in their own parishes.
Priests - we had 2 priests. Main celebrant is Fr. Anselm from SPP, con-celebrant & solemniser is Fr. Arro.
from our experience, the church florist charged quite expensive...esp for the kinds and amounts of items she was giving us. Not sure if she has revised her quote now...
Choir, well...can't help u there.
Rehearsal timings...the sacristian is pretty sticky with the timing. 630pm to 730pm. If it stretches beyond that, be prepared for her super black face. (when she first meets u, it's already not-so-friendly lah). Church deco...she also controls the timing to put up the deco very strictly. Not sure if that would be the case for couples who engage the church florist.
Anything else I can help you with, just post here or PM me.
HI Lyon,
Am not sure is it consider confirm booking. As she didnt take the form from me. She only write down our date on the diary. That all. Oh.. am refer to St Francis of Assisi.
It quite hard to get Father John. Alway he not ard. So each time i have to find the secretary. Now am attending RCIA and i cant attend full mass so half way we have to go for sharing. That the reason each time i cant get hold of Father John. Do u tink i sld find Father John now? As my baptise have not been over yet.
Am not sure is it consider confirm booking. As she didnt take the form from me. She only write down our date on the diary. That all. Oh.. am refer to St Francis of Assisi.
It quite hard to get Father John. Alway he not ard. So each time i have to find the secretary. Now am attending RCIA and i cant attend full mass so half way we have to go for sharing. That the reason each time i cant get hold of Father John. Do u tink i sld find Father John now? As my baptise have not been over yet.
hi CSI, thanks for the info. there is a wedding before mine and I am trying to find out if the couple like to share the deco cost. If not, probably going without decor cos i will only have about 20 guest plus i am going for the service not full mass... so doesnt make sense to spend so much on it.
hmm... church weddings are more expensive than I thought.
hmm... church weddings are more expensive than I thought.