Hi All,
My problem started 2 years ago when hubby stab in the back by his friend at work and lost his job. He was unsucessful in getting a job for a while and decided to start his own business. The biz didnt do well and we evetnually lost it in a short period of time.
during the time when he was looking after the business there was not much to do and he started texting his ex classmate. Although they are in different countries. initally i didnt think much of it. but one time when he was helping her with work, i saw a msg come in on his messenger, I said to him "she" texted you. The first thing he did was said to me "i dont know why she text me, i havent been communicating with her" while on messenger she had already told me that she had ask for help with her work. I wasnt happy that he lied to me, and so we argued afterwards.
from then on i find him texting and being very secretive. we had fought on and off the last year about this subject and 2 weeks ago i delibrately deleted her number from his phone, since he said that he doesnt text her anymore, just to find out the next day he had saved her in a different name. to make it worse now he goes on wechat people nearby to chat to girls to destress. We havent been talking since i initated a separation.
but i know they are still keeping in touch.
I have always been insecure.
Have i over exagerrated in this case? we are currently sleeping in different rooms and he takes his phone and ipad everywhere in the house so i dont get to touch it.
am i being over sensitive? I use to be the world to him until last year. Now he tells me "i can communicate to whom,when, where i want and its none of your business, you either accept or move on" now i feel so unwanted. He doesnt talk to me anymore and instead prefer to be texting other ppl.
My problem started 2 years ago when hubby stab in the back by his friend at work and lost his job. He was unsucessful in getting a job for a while and decided to start his own business. The biz didnt do well and we evetnually lost it in a short period of time.
during the time when he was looking after the business there was not much to do and he started texting his ex classmate. Although they are in different countries. initally i didnt think much of it. but one time when he was helping her with work, i saw a msg come in on his messenger, I said to him "she" texted you. The first thing he did was said to me "i dont know why she text me, i havent been communicating with her" while on messenger she had already told me that she had ask for help with her work. I wasnt happy that he lied to me, and so we argued afterwards.
from then on i find him texting and being very secretive. we had fought on and off the last year about this subject and 2 weeks ago i delibrately deleted her number from his phone, since he said that he doesnt text her anymore, just to find out the next day he had saved her in a different name. to make it worse now he goes on wechat people nearby to chat to girls to destress. We havent been talking since i initated a separation.
but i know they are still keeping in touch.
I have always been insecure.
Have i over exagerrated in this case? we are currently sleeping in different rooms and he takes his phone and ipad everywhere in the house so i dont get to touch it.
am i being over sensitive? I use to be the world to him until last year. Now he tells me "i can communicate to whom,when, where i want and its none of your business, you either accept or move on" now i feel so unwanted. He doesnt talk to me anymore and instead prefer to be texting other ppl.
