Hi to all!
Just want to offer some clarification on an alternative contraceptive method: natural family planning (NFP). I was reading the previous postings, and i read that somebody mentioned that NFP is not accurate. Has it occurred to anyone that the reason for the inaccuracy could be due to insufficient knowledge of how NFP works?
Firstly, irregularity in periods doesn't matter, 'cos the thing to look out for is the change in mucus, and once you've gone through the proper course and done all your chartings, u shd have the confidence to predict correctly.
Besides the method of checking mucus, you can also chart your temperature (early morning), though this shd not be done alone without checking mucus, as temperature change can be due to other factors (eg. fever).
I think most people opt for pills for convenience's sake, too lazy to bother to track your own ovulation... but i've got some plus points for learning to use NFP, hope u all will seriously consider:
1) Contraception. U'll know when it is safe to have sex, and when it is not safe, u can plan some outdoor activities, like watching movies etc... btw, that's what i do to distract my hubby, otherwise he always sulks when i say no
2) To conceive. When u're ready to have a baby, u'll know which are the best days to have sex (don't need to try everyday, hee!)
3) Sex of baby. Of course, there's no guarantee for this, but u can increase the probability of the prefered gender for your baby. Generally, if u want a boy, intercourse shd take place on or one day before ovulation. The rationale is that the Y chromosomes in his sperm (for making little baby boys) last only abt 1 day. But the X chromosomes can last for abt 6 days inside u, so if u want a little girl, have sex abt 6-2 days before ovulation, and refrain from sex 1 day before or on day of ovulation. Having said that, let me emphasize that unless u're sure abt your ovulation, u can't pre-determine your kid's gender, u only increase the odds... and even though u know your ovulation period, u can still get a baby girl instead of a boy if the Y is weak... however u can be fairly certain of a girl if u have sex 6-2 days b4 ovulation, as the Y shd have died already by the time your egg is released.
4) First day when period starts. Very useful for me as i also have irregular periods, i used to dread if it'll suddenly come, i have ranged from 29-40 day cycles! But my charts are quite consistent in that i always have my period 15/16 days after ovulation, so now i'm more prepared
Of cos it differs for everyone.
wow... i didn't know i can be so long-winded, but i guess it goes to show that NFP is not that simple as some may think, but it is still worth it to learn!
I never trust pills, and guys if u see this, don't risk your partner's health by asking them to go on the pill for YOUR convenience! Just my personal opinion lah... no hatemails pls, okie?
Enough said, if anyone's interested, can leave me a msg, 'cos I don't want to bore others with information on where to learn NFP (it's free, btw...)
Have a nice weekend!