love yourself, care for yourself, do not waste your energy on people who do not deserve your love. life will be much easier when you realized that you really need to 'benchmark' your 'potential' partner to be, or while you are 'interviewing' 'potential' dates. Do not love for 'love' .. but to love and feel you will genuinely be happy with this particular person always. About time love has got to do with taking, and not just giving. Learn to please yourself along the way. Before marriage, it is about pleasing yourself with higher expectations. After marriage, it is about 'closing' an eye and lower your expectations.