Just to share,
My hubby did propose me with nice dinner and 1,5carat lazzare diamond ring eventhough his technical poping question part not so romantic; Then after rom i pregnant rite away, so cancel the wedding dinner.. so i have no wed dinner or even tea ceremony, nor wedding pictures yet until today (my doter will be 2 yrs soon), at first i used to feel sad coz feel like not "complete" yet as a woman; but our marriage so blissfull, hubby so sayang me and such a wonderfull husband and great father to our doter, he fill all our need and give us everything he can. From phisical and material. He still bring me out for dinner or movie, just 2 of us, brought flowers home, write card or love note for me (not romantic poem with those i cant live without u kind of crap, just to say how thankfull he have me in his life or how he love us so much), let me do whatever i want, supportiff towards me, willing to take care of our doter so i can go to salon/spa/just meet friends, and bring me for nice holiday at least twice a year, this coming jun he will bring me for second honeymoon to western europe for 6weeks, coz the first honeymoon (in maldives not so nice for me since i was pregnant and keep vomiting all e time).
So i guess, sometimes all this proposal things or big fat wedding with fairy tale dream not so important, afterall what does count is how the life after the wedding..
Everytime i if bit "jealous" whenever i read wedding magazine or watch someone else video or photo album from someone wedding, i keep remind myself how lucky i am, that eventhough i dont have those big fancy wedding, i do have what i dare to say : perfect fairy tale marriage.. all our frens and relative keep telling me that i'm so bless and lucky to have such a gud husband. So if they think that way, why shouldnt i?
I guess, this proposal and fairy tale wedding become our "the most important thing" is because biz politic act, those hotels, bridal etc, keep showering us with those "neverending happiness wedding" to sell. So i think its depends on us, we should be more mature and wise to see which one is the most important.. it's so stupid to let those lousy feeling not being propose romanticly or having a glamour dinner affect our relationship.. esp those couple who die die have to "show" grand dinner, thinking its everything then end up in a debt! coz its not everything! there are many more important things than how romantic your bf propose u or how nice your dinner was. As for me, eventhough my hubby can afford a grand wedding (we did our rom in shangri la hotel)- i even already got my wedding gown from VW- but i still dont have what so call on my knes proposal or the grand wedding that we've plan before, my life still so beautiful.
Just my 2cent of worth