hi ladies, my wedding was a month ago and my hubby is not local so he doesn't understand why he's got to do all these activities. plus it didn't help that he's seem some very cruel jie-meis.
so i told my JMs that they had to keep the following in mind: no humiliating activities, no overly sweaty activities, nothing painful (his leg very hairy la!) and nothing that will give him the runs (cos our AD was in the evening).
in the end, he had to do the following:
sing to me through a loudhailer while climbing up the stairs to my mums house (she stays on the 10th floor). in the end he took the lift. but sang anyway.
1. at the main door, he had to go thru suan tian ku la, which i found very significant. and answer a few questions about me. for every wrong question, his brothers did push ups on his behalf
2. then he had to write my chinese name and 'i love you' in chinese (he's not chinese)
3. my parents also gave him the marriage contract to sign (serious stuff like i promise to take care of your daughter, and funny stuff like 'my manly needs will always take second place if my wife has a backache/neckache/eye ache etc'. hehe) and then he had to ask them to countersign as witnesses
4. he was presented with 4 popsicles with a key frozen inside each of them. him and his brothers each took one, and then had to use one of them to open the door to the room i was in
5. finally at the door he had to tell everyone (and me) why he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.
the above should be kind enough to any wary groom, and sweet enough to remember in years to come