Any guy can advice?

[sgbabydoll]

"haiz but most guys like my bf likes to say they like girls who are virtuous wives to be..like cook and take care of children..."

Got meh? I haven't met a man like this before.

 

[lovingyou]

Doll, there are still minority grps who will feel this way.

 

[sgbabydoll]

Maybe I don't look like the cooking type and no one wanted to waste time on telling me that? Haha. In truth, I can cook quite good meals as I had spent some time studying overseas. But I don't offer this info because like Powder has said, it's first physical attraction and then personality that attract men to women, and vice versa, not the ability to do housework.

 

[lovingyou]

I agree!!.. Moreover, we dun marry coz we expect our partners to be able to do the things we want, we marry coz we love the person for who he/she is.

 

[sgbabydoll]

We can love whipping up a good meal, keeping the house clean and taking care of children. Nothing wrong with that. But it's another story if we wishfully think that doing so we can attract or even keep men interested in us.

 

[lovingyou]

Agree Doll, and also, keep doing things to please ppl can never lasts.. It will be a day where we simply snap out of it.

 

[sgbabydoll]

I think it boils down to expectation. Some people, especially women, cook dinner, buy breakfast, do laundry, etc for their bf/husband expecting to be appreciated for being a good wife. To be honest, these chores can be easily outsourced to a maid. Men don't really care who get all these done as long as they get done. Think we need to put more focus in being a great companion to our bf/husband, for example, being understanding, fun, spontaneous, communicative, and supportive, etc. That's how I see it.

 

[lovingyou]

I guess being able to connect with your partner is another factor too..

 

[shirleypoise]

Would u even marry your spouse if you can't connect? That's like the basic rite...

 

[lovingyou]

Well, being in love doesn't mean can connect as well isn't it? Else, why would there be threads that questions it?

 

[shirleypoise]

Not being able to connect but is in love? I'll call that marrying blindly..

 

[lovingyou]

Well, isn't there such a phrase as love is blind?

 

[sgbabydoll]

"Well, isn't there a phrase: love is blind?"

Haha!