Any brides regretted having a too simple ROM/wedding?

[xu4n]

I initially wanted to have a ROM and a sit down dinner after that with relatives and my friends in a beautiful setting. We have even managed to find the ideal place that both me n bf really likes. But now, due to many reasons such as parents, traditions, and all sorts of "things we shld do", I've decided to just have a solemnisation with a buffet in a restaurant and only invite relatives, not inviting any friends.

I'm convinced that in terms of costs and expenses, this will be a better way, less things to prepare, and less stressful too. but at the same time worried that one day I will regret that I didn't get to celebrate the occasion with my friends. Any advice from past experiences?

 

[happythomson]

i now regret having alot of thing to do ..that time should hve ROM then consider as actual wedding then settle..

my wedding is april wow so many to do .. faint ...

you shld be happy ...

So troublesme .. less tables .. less dispute

 

[happythomson]

If you are realli concerned never celebrate with ur friend .. just get few closed friend as celebrate as hen nite or if nt, a small celebration to show ur CD on tat day to show your solemisation ..

i tell realli waste $$$ .. moreover , end up u and ur bf hve both dispute due nver do before ..

save the $$ to go better honeymood ...

 

[J_Xuan]

I had my wedding in 2011... I was also very sian then because I had to plan for everything... twice! Once for our ROM and another major one which was my A.D.... which were held on different days
I had to think of every possible scenario and plan for every meagre thing while my now husband just slacks his days away...playing computer games...
He sleeps at 11pm every night while I , the poor BTB sleeps at 1am everyday 2 weeks towards my A.D I didn't even have a sleepless night the night before my wedding because I was so so so exhausted! I drifted to lalaland the moment I landed on my bed!

At that point of time, I dreaded doing all the planning work and hoped for the day to come and pass soon.

With very limited "manpower" i skipped alot of stuff.... unlike many of my friends, i kept my wedding "activities" to the minimal. There weren't any personalization at all. We merely followed the standard hotel plan.
But I know I have done my best although it could have been better. I couldn't have done more with just a pair of hands. P.S my sisters were in very busy professions and I did not want to trouble them...so i did not ask for their help except on the actual day.

At the end of the day, I had some sense of achievement and satisfaction for doing all the work, coz never in my life i ever planned such a "huge" project before.

BUT I do have a little feeling of "regret" which I do not know how to elaborate..... I wished I had some joy in planning. I wished my husband could have taken more initiative to perfect his own wedding.

The worse thing is that he was down with flu on our wedding day and wasn't at his best state , sniffing everywhere he went. Whats more? He passed it to me and I had to "extend my marriage leave" with a 2 day MC!!! How memorable! LOL.

 

[happygirl1981]

Me n my so done very simple ROM . Did not regret cuz is really just a 5mins thing .

I rented a gown even for ROM for $250 . waste of money =x

 

[kitminish]

Same here, a simple I do in the ROM office. At first was looking out for nice location, beach, restaurant and even bunglow for our wedding. The amount came out to be $5k for food, venue, setup and etc. With our house coming soon and another AD in a year time, we scrap all the idea and go ahead with a simple I-do and a meal out with the closest group of family and friends which is around 14 paxs.. It is very simple but we are still happy and busy. At the end of the day, we still only spend around $500 for bouquet, makeup, gown and suit, and the dinner, 1/10 of what our initital planning cost us.. We have inform our friends not to bring any present or angbao as it is just a simple affair that we wish they are just there for us physically.. The feeling is just so good, no stress for us, no stress for them..

 

[2012novbride]

J_Xuan, we have exactly the same 'regrets' and beside that, hubby kept giving me problems right up to the day before the AD (instead of helping me). Mine wasn't a big wedding but I planned everything on my own, from sourcing wedding favours & AD venue to writing the groom's and emcee's speech, to planning the AD schedule and honeymoon etc. Yeah! Felt a great sense of achievement after the whole event. If I can turn back the clock, I wish for a even more simple wedding, just go ROM centre to sign the paper will do.

 

[blissful888]

Same here, a simple I do in the ROM office. At first was looking out for nice location, beach, restaurant and even bunglow for our wedding. The amount came out to be $5k for food, venue, setup and etc. With our house coming soon and another AD in a year time, we scrap all the idea and go ahead with a simple I-do and a meal out with the closest group of family and friends which is around 14 paxs.. It is very simple but we are still happy and busy. At the end of the day, we still only spend around $500 for bouquet, makeup, gown and suit, and the dinner, 1/10 of what our initital planning cost us.. We have inform our friends not to bring any present or angbao as it is just a simple affair that we wish they are just there for us physically.. The feeling is just so good, no stress for us, no stress for them..

like this simple wedding affair
as long as both of u r comfortable with it will do
cos u r the one getting married
others r only present to give u their blessings

 

[Phua Poh Sim]

i had the most beautiful simple wedding last year. sit down lunch chinese banquet with about 100 relatives and very very close friends. everything was done at the hotel (no pick up bride, no gate crashing etc). and after that, the hotel was so sweet to clean up the mess made in the suite because of the tea ceremony before we called it a day and retire after the solemnisation and lunch =) very very beautiful i will always remember this special day =)

 

[eiko]

I always dreamt of having a wedding ceremony but after thinking through I have decided to settle for a simple ROM, which will be my one and only wedding and the rest of the $$$ to be spent on photoshoot and other things..

 

[blissful888]

Hi eiko, how about ur tea cremony?
so u will hold the ceremony at ur home then call it a day?

 

[Crystalanne]

Same here, a simple I do in the ROM office. At first was looking out for nice location, beach, restaurant and even bunglow for our wedding. The amount came out to be $5k for food, venue, setup and etc. With our house coming soon and another AD in a year time, we scrap all the idea and go ahead with a simple I-do and a meal out with the closest group of family and friends which is around 14 paxs.. It is very simple but we are still happy and busy. At the end of the day, we still only spend around $500 for bouquet, makeup, gown and suit, and the dinner, 1/10 of what our initital planning cost us.. We have inform our friends not to bring any present or angbao as it is just a simple affair that we wish they are just there for us physically.. The feeling is just so good, no stress for us, no stress for them..

can advise us?...

 

[shambolic_boist]

Just had my ROM done, the venue is at Amara Sanctuary Sentosa. Really depends on individual on how simple or big you want your ROM to be.
Mine was a close friends event, with just my family members and about 20 friends. However, the venue and buffet was rather expensive. But did not regret it.
I enjoyed the process of preparing the ROM with my hubby together, we spends days and hours preparing all the DIY decorations ourselves to cut down the expenses.

End of the day, we enjoyed the hotel stay very much and almost missed our breakfast lol.

I noted down some details (too lazy to write too much) on my wedding blog. You guys can see it if you're interested!
http://tpzlxs.wordpress.com/