Ang baos for GDL and tea ceremony

[DTa]

Hi, I'm in the midst of preparing my budget for GDL and tea ceremony... now according to Hokkien tradition (that I read on the Internet), the bride needs to prepare ang bao for the groom's parents and unmarried siblings. Any idea how much I should give? Minimum amount, since we are paying for the entire GDL ourselves... have to be on a budget now.

Also, for tea ceremony, when the younger unmarried siblings offer tea to us, how much ang bao money should I give? Is it 2 red packets (one from me, one from husband) to the younger sibling, or just one red packet (one from the couple)?

I tried to find information on the Internet but can only find helper ang bao rates! Help!

 

[jkwedding308]

Hi, I'm in the midst of preparing my budget for GDL and tea ceremony... now according to Hokkien tradition (that I read on the Internet), the bride needs to prepare ang bao for the groom's parents and unmarried siblings. Any idea how much I should give? Minimum amount, since we are paying for the entire GDL ourselves... have to be on a budget now.

Also, for tea ceremony, when the younger unmarried siblings offer tea to us, how much ang bao money should I give? Is it 2 red packets (one from me, one from husband) to the younger sibling, or just one red packet (one from the couple)?

I tried to find information on the Internet but can only find helper ang bao rates! Help!

We didn't give our parents any ang pows but we gave them presents instead. As for unmarried siblings, we gave a single ang pow together during the tea ceremony. I don't think it makes much difference - you can either give a single one with a particular sum or you can give two red packets but each one has half the sum - either way it still adds up to the same amount haha.. We gave about $100 but then again, my sis-in-law was already getting other ang pows from the guys during the gatecrashing as she was one of my bridesmaids.. Don't think there's any strict amount that you should give - as long as it's done sincerely and within reasonable means, it should be fine..

 

[bearine]

Hmmm, Was told to give towels. The GDL shop told me to give angbao instead, but I still stick to towels. Bought the better quality ones. I bought for his parents, married siblings and spouse and unmarried sibling as well.

For tea ceremony, when we served tea, we received 1 as a couple. i think should be vice versa. No one wants to serve us tea.

 

[DTa]

Thanks Bearine! However, from what I read, towels & the ang baos is not "either or" situation, meaning both need to be given (but my ILs don't want towels)

 

[bearine]

oh, haha. for mine, both are unsure. so, we just go ahead with what we like, as long as both side agreeable. perhaps get ur htb to ask first. need to get things straight at the start.