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happygal74

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am in a LDR with a foreigner who is a public figure in his home country. We knew each other for 4 years before he popped the question of us being a couple. Due to his profession, we couldn't go dating and spend daily messaging each other until 2years ago, he was diagnosed with a genetic brain aneurysm of which his father passed on of the same clause when he was young. I was really painful for me to find out the truth, crying almost everyday in the past. I told him to break the news to his family, he refused and it was me who shared the news to his close friend, to a point, it stressed him and he broke off with me. However, he begged me to stay by his side because he still had feeling for me, etc etc. In between those 2years, I financially supported his medical bills for treatment. Due to his sickness, he became negative over his life and when he died, blar blar, in the beginning, i am willing to stay with him thinking we can work things out, however, due to his busy schedule, we seldom talk and as always due to language problem he had difficulty in understanding me. As time passed by, i became emotionlly drained and stressed up by my work, thus, i began to pick on him by controlling him what he can and cannot do due to his sickness. Fast forward, I noticed that he start flirting with a few models via his social media and i became extremely annoyed, picked on a fight with him, eventually, i told him off by telling him to return a portion of the money which I helped him, he was like, shocked.. literally, he cursed me by sharing his secret of taking loan from others, etc etc. I was deeply hurt by his words, so we went into no communication mode for 1 month. I keep waiting for him, but, he didn't text me, until one day, suddenly his manager warned me not to contact him again and accused me of brainwashed him over so many things after he confronted my ex. The communication was totally cut off without ending.

I was very sad and angry and asked myself, how can someone ghosted me just like that after i had done so much for him, he is sick, i stayed with him. I am getting the feeling, i have been used by him as he co-depend on me for so long, not really someone who he wanted. Recently, he began to flirt heavily with another model cum actress and only text me to say hi and bye and didnt say anything else, i am so lost, i wanted to get my money back yet deep inside me, i still have feeling for him, what shall i do?
 


confusedlife

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Sorry. Before I can comment, it seems like you've been in LDR with this guy for 2 years? Have you guys ever dated as a couple? It does not sound like a normal relationship to me.
I'm abit confused as to why he needed your help financially since you said he is a public figure and should have enough money?
 

John Tan68

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Sorry. Before I can comment, it seems like you've been in LDR with this guy for 2 years? Have you guys ever dated as a couple? It does not sound like a normal relationship to me.
I'm abit confused as to why he needed your help financially since you said he is a public figure and should have enough money?
I’m also confuse too. Public figure and need to be discreet, should be someone that is powerful and probably financially well to do.
However, I don’t know, but this seems to me a typical love scam.
 

coldjade

Active Member
用钱消灾。Sounds like a honey trap. Just treat it as you spent the money to buy a lesson and blocked further nonsense from him. But I will say keep a copy of his messages and proof that he took money from you just in case. Other than that, forget about him and move on.
 

happygal74

New Member
I’m also confuse too. Public figure and need to be discreet, should be someone that is powerful and probably financially well to do.
However, I don’t know, but this seems to me a typical love scam.
Thanks for your advise, a painful lesson for me
 

happygal74

New Member
用钱消灾。Sounds like a honey trap. Just treat it as you spent the money to buy a lesson and blocked further nonsense from him. But I will say keep a copy of his messages and proof that he took money from you just in case. Other than that, forget about him and move on.
Thanks for your advise, the message still with me and the more was his own agency manager exposing his name rather than me naming him out. He was indeed a let down and sometime when I suddenly stumble his fans posting photo of him on IG, it anger me over how ungrateful a man like him can be and right now flirting with his new found love interest. If his sickness is real, one day that will be his downfall eventually
 

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