To keep my story short, I did wrong once by 2-timing my bf. He forgave me and all and we are now happily together. I am totally grateful and all. Knowing that the harsh lesson made me very committed to be a better person and not repeating my mistakes.
However, I learnt that during the period where we were apart (we broke up for a while after my straying incident), he visited prostitutes. I calmly confronted him about it and he admitted.
He said he was feeling so low and hurt by my actions and plus he was so highly stressed, that he did that. To put it in another way "he thought he could also stoop to my level" to even out things.
I guess I just knew of the matter, so right now I am somehow feeling really mixed and affected. A long train of tots keep going through my mind.
So many questions are coming up:
1) Will he visit them again when we go through other downs?
2) Should I be bothered about it since he did it when he was single?
3) If he can do it once, he probably can do it more?
4) If I had not made a mistake in the first place, I would not have brought out the worst in him.
5) Am I being okay about this just because I've erred before and am telling myself that I should accept it?
Given if I had not erred in the first place, I would have really been really sad and totally find it unacceptable.
I really don't know what I'm feeling right now. I just cannot understand why a guy can visit commercial places for sex. If it was with someone he has feelings for, maybe I can understand better.
For me, it wun happen with someone I have no feelings for.
I really can't blame him.. He has promised that he will not visit them anymore. Am I able to overcome my own insecurities after this? Haiz... Am I thinking too much??
However, I learnt that during the period where we were apart (we broke up for a while after my straying incident), he visited prostitutes. I calmly confronted him about it and he admitted.
He said he was feeling so low and hurt by my actions and plus he was so highly stressed, that he did that. To put it in another way "he thought he could also stoop to my level" to even out things.
I guess I just knew of the matter, so right now I am somehow feeling really mixed and affected. A long train of tots keep going through my mind.
So many questions are coming up:
1) Will he visit them again when we go through other downs?
2) Should I be bothered about it since he did it when he was single?
3) If he can do it once, he probably can do it more?
4) If I had not made a mistake in the first place, I would not have brought out the worst in him.
5) Am I being okay about this just because I've erred before and am telling myself that I should accept it?
Given if I had not erred in the first place, I would have really been really sad and totally find it unacceptable.
I really don't know what I'm feeling right now. I just cannot understand why a guy can visit commercial places for sex. If it was with someone he has feelings for, maybe I can understand better.
For me, it wun happen with someone I have no feelings for.
I really can't blame him.. He has promised that he will not visit them anymore. Am I able to overcome my own insecurities after this? Haiz... Am I thinking too much??