affairs

dsbt

New Member
Lengthy intro,
I hope to seek out some advice for my situation. I am in an affair with a married man, likewise I am married with family too. I don’t feel as guilty as I should and have been telling myself that my hb probably does it too. We are married with 2k. I realized I am in this situation because my marriage lacked the emotional aspects, it had become dull and predictable. I also wanted to experience dating hoping it leads to no consequences. I know this is wicked & wishful of me.
2 yrs ago I fount my h sexting with maids on WA, since my discovery I had a lengthy quarrel with him. He has since apologized many x and want to focus on our marriage. I was so affected by the incident I researched divorce proceedings but never went through.
At the same time I had chances to be in an affair with a friend who reached out to me but didn’t I guess there is enough chemistry. Fast forward now, this new affair I am in, I want to explore more. I would rate our current marriage to be stable but dull , we are detached from the marriage and are fulfilling duties as they come, like you would chores
 


rip_curl

Member
So what do kind of response do you want to get from this forum? whatever the situation, it does not give you the option or choice to have an affair? If you are sensible enough, at least get a divorce first since the pain will be the same for your kids. Settle the well being of your kids first before thinking about yourself. Have you consider your kids if they know you are having affair? Sex texting is not the same as having an affair. Its like surfing porn or commenting on a porn site. Not ideal I know but I dont think that quantified an affair or have physical contact.

Dont give yourself excuses. I think you are worst than your H committing to an affair. thats selfish and self-centre for that intro you gave
 

dsbt

New Member
I do expect flack from my post, and wanted to write my perspective. I am not a saint and not explaining why i did. My posting is to find out more about my situation, is this common or is because nobody will post about such matters, only victims of spouse's affairs? You can consider me giving the "other side of the coin story"
 
You want someone to validate you as a woman, yes? The thrill of being "chased" and "wanted". That "quickening" or that you can't get from your husband correct?

Or is this about revenge and getting back at the hubby? Have you considered the hurt of those around you apart from your husband should this affair come to light?

If it is the former - have you considered to operate within a sand-box with strict boundaries for which you will never cross? The playground is a dangerous place if you don't have rules to abide by ...
 

Infernolord

Active Member
" I don’t feel as guilty as I should and have been telling myself that my hb probably does it too."
No offenses. That married guy pobably not guilty as well. Perhaps he has affair with you and more other woman, as he probably feel that you are the same as the others.
 

newproject

Active Member
Hey infernolord how's married life?
" I don’t feel as guilty as I should and have been telling myself that my hb probably does it too."
No offenses. That married guy pobably not guilty as well. Perhaps he has affair with you and more other woman, as he probably feel that you are the same as the others.
 

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