June, cant be country-ist on this. for affair, it can be of any race, skin colour or religion mah. it's about the feelings. it's about both the person involved.
it takes 2 hands to clap. one person can definitely do nothing to create an "affair". be fair on this. perhaps their marriage already has a "red light" on, or maybe the guy cannot stand temptation, or maybe it's juz for fun. too many possible reasons.
Do u think a guy will stop having another affair just because he promise he will stop it? i don't think so. It is the excitement that get him into this mess in the very first place.
If the guy is responsible, he will never and will not ever have initial or start an affair at all.
I am not kaypoh leh, she is my best friend and really heart broken to see her crying day and night. maybe some 1 has personal experience can share their. I know her hubby love her alot and really don't understand why he got involved with this China woman
As a friend you get help and listen to her. But you can also poison her mind as well. Your stand on "China" woman - blaming them for destroying the marriages of SG men and women is a little simplistic. Look beyond the china girl. She has to look within herself as well...
I don't know her I can't say much. But if you are also giving her such ideas as assigning all the blame to china women and not look at their relationship in totality, it is not going to help much.
Nothing is ever easy.. with kids or without. Kids are double-edge sword.. and I don't think it is relevant.. If a man is bent on screwing around, you think have kids will stop him? He already proven this point by having an affair.
Now, the question is whether he will want a divorce or he is just fooling around with the china woman. The ball is in his court.. Not his wife or the kids... the kids are innocent but incidental.
June gf can still dump him.. if that is what she wants.. it is not easy to bring up the kids all by herself.. but surely it beats living with a man who is screwing around? I don't know.. I am not a woman, I can't understand their psyche.
But one thing I can tell. Dumping the man may not be necessary bad for the kids depending on the circumstances..