I don't know where to start this long story.
3 weeks after we started the relationship, he then confessed to me that
1) He was married with a kid and he is going through separation with his wife - Since they are separated like what he said, I accepted it cause divorce is very common these days
2) He had a one night stand with a lady and she was carrying his child which is due anytime soon.- I was concerned about this but he assured me that he was not in any relationship with her and i'm not a third party. He will still bear the responsibility of being a father to the child.He said they are mutually agreeable that marriage is not an option
I thought since he has confessed and be honest, then I can learn to accept because these were the past.I seriously would not mind to parent his kids together with him. But a lot of signs are pointing out, he is just juggling 3 women at the same time (And some other flirting too)
But as the days goes by, i kinda discovered things weren't so simple.
His wife msg-ed him every night, telling him about their son. (Common, but what is disturbing is the content, there was one msg that his wife asked him if he is coming back to her, be honest and dun give her false hope. His reply was he is trying to go back)Initially he brings his son over every weekend, but now he goes over instead and stays over. Sometimes he says he's at his mum's place (which is really close to his wife's place), but i seriously doubt so. But I have to give him credit that he is a really doting father when it comes to his son
The other lady carrying his child sent msgs which clearly defined that their relationship was more than what he has tell me.She had even went to the extent of helping him get his hp line reconnected, although she is hard up on herself, and she is pregnant.
There are also some other msgs from other gals which i do not want to go into details.
I know looking into his smses is not right but his behavior is downright suspicious all the time.
(Putting his hp below his pillow when he sleeps, stories he says always have loose ends etc)
I think he is playing mind games with me all the time, when things doesn't really goes his way, he say things like "Since you don't believe me, there's nothing more to say". I find that it is very manipulative because he always got me trapped in a corner.
Confronting him is pointless, cause i tried once and even though the fault was on him, obviously, becomes my fault.
He is staying at my place now, and i dun ask for much, which is the basic respect for me,he doesn't even let me know if he is coming back for the night if he goes to his wife's place.
I think i had enough of the nonsense and I want to leave. But the complicated thing is, I know it is not going to be easy. I do not want to be manipulated at any cost.There are some money issues involved too but I'm prepared to forgo them.
I do not need flaming but just advice on how I could get him to move out of my place without too much of a drama. To minimize the impact as much as possible. I also do not want him to have the excuse to blame me on anything. Coz from these 2 months that i've observed him, there must always be someone to blame but not him. Even the reason he told me that his marriage fell apart.
If you are going to ask why I let him into my place so fast, that was because he told me he was staying with a fren when we just met and it was very inconvenient. Part of me took pity of him and since we are going to be together, why not since i stayed alone. I didn't know of his background then.
3 weeks after we started the relationship, he then confessed to me that
1) He was married with a kid and he is going through separation with his wife - Since they are separated like what he said, I accepted it cause divorce is very common these days
2) He had a one night stand with a lady and she was carrying his child which is due anytime soon.- I was concerned about this but he assured me that he was not in any relationship with her and i'm not a third party. He will still bear the responsibility of being a father to the child.He said they are mutually agreeable that marriage is not an option
I thought since he has confessed and be honest, then I can learn to accept because these were the past.I seriously would not mind to parent his kids together with him. But a lot of signs are pointing out, he is just juggling 3 women at the same time (And some other flirting too)
But as the days goes by, i kinda discovered things weren't so simple.
His wife msg-ed him every night, telling him about their son. (Common, but what is disturbing is the content, there was one msg that his wife asked him if he is coming back to her, be honest and dun give her false hope. His reply was he is trying to go back)Initially he brings his son over every weekend, but now he goes over instead and stays over. Sometimes he says he's at his mum's place (which is really close to his wife's place), but i seriously doubt so. But I have to give him credit that he is a really doting father when it comes to his son
The other lady carrying his child sent msgs which clearly defined that their relationship was more than what he has tell me.She had even went to the extent of helping him get his hp line reconnected, although she is hard up on herself, and she is pregnant.
There are also some other msgs from other gals which i do not want to go into details.
I know looking into his smses is not right but his behavior is downright suspicious all the time.
(Putting his hp below his pillow when he sleeps, stories he says always have loose ends etc)
I think he is playing mind games with me all the time, when things doesn't really goes his way, he say things like "Since you don't believe me, there's nothing more to say". I find that it is very manipulative because he always got me trapped in a corner.
Confronting him is pointless, cause i tried once and even though the fault was on him, obviously, becomes my fault.
He is staying at my place now, and i dun ask for much, which is the basic respect for me,he doesn't even let me know if he is coming back for the night if he goes to his wife's place.
I think i had enough of the nonsense and I want to leave. But the complicated thing is, I know it is not going to be easy. I do not want to be manipulated at any cost.There are some money issues involved too but I'm prepared to forgo them.
I do not need flaming but just advice on how I could get him to move out of my place without too much of a drama. To minimize the impact as much as possible. I also do not want him to have the excuse to blame me on anything. Coz from these 2 months that i've observed him, there must always be someone to blame but not him. Even the reason he told me that his marriage fell apart.
If you are going to ask why I let him into my place so fast, that was because he told me he was staying with a fren when we just met and it was very inconvenient. Part of me took pity of him and since we are going to be together, why not since i stayed alone. I didn't know of his background then.
