My divorce has just ended after like 1.5 yrs and I had 2 lawyers unfortunately. After so much of research and meeting with some lawyers, finally I settled down with one firm. They had a detailed website for divorce and seem to be expertise. I met Lawyer A at Lawfirm Gl** Ja**** gave me the confident that it will be a smooth process. However, they changed lawyer without even informing me since the start. Then, when i questioned them, they told me they are from the same firm and Lawyer A will still oversee my case but she didn't. So Lawyer B was doing my case but I seem to be doing most of the work like amending the documents to typing new ones. Imagine i am going through an emotional breakdown and yet had to do this. I was stupid and didn't know what to do cos its my 1st time. My lawyer didnt even give me suggestions or guide me thru. I had to struggle my way thru. They even try to overcharge me. And when i refuse to pay, they said they will file in court and let the court decide. But they were not willing to even listen to my explanation. How crude can it get to threaten the client who is going thru a broken marriage ?? I really couldnt take it anymore. My lawyer don't need to be my punching bag or emotional support but surely not a threat to me. And infact, I felt that lawyer B was a good friend if his lawyer. So they were just trying to ambush and get more $$ from both parties. So for my own good, I engaged another lawyer and thank god, I did so. This new lawyer guided me thru and was very professional. Lawyers are not GOD who knows everything but sometimes, based on their experience, they can guide. And we too need to do a little homework. Somehow, after so much of emotional and financial struggle, things got settled. It has sadly come to an end.
Somethings I had learnt and want to share:
1)Divorce is not about who wins or loses. Its about how to settle things in a smooth manner and to be truthful and fair. We will not be jailed to be truthful!!
2) If you feel your lawyer is trying to push you around, pls wake uppppp!!
3) Try mediation. Its one of the best way to resolve. Nothing to be afraid or ashamed to step into court.
4) You had once loved & lived with this person whom you're divorcing. So don't treat his/her like your enemy cos the pain will inflict in u further.
5) It may be difficult to take decisions when you're emotional. And this maybe a rough sea but you can surely sail thru.