Advice Needed - dating a man who is going through a divorce

allycinsg

New Member
I met this guy from an online dating app. He is going through a divorce, likely to be an uncontested divorce in Singapore and both parties need to work through the ancillary matters, e.g. children custody and financials. He said it will be a few months, but never indicated on the timeline.

We meet during weekdays for lunch, never weekends. During weekday evenings, he doesn't respond after 7:00 pm in general, if lucky I will receive response around 11:30 pm, otherwise the following morning. He then says he fell asleep.

We chat on daily basis, but the frequency reduces as the week goes by ... Fri, Sat and Sun responses reduce to 1 or 2 words.

Seeking opinions on the following:
(1) How do I know if he is really going through a divorce?
(2) How can I tell if I am a bootie call or there are potentials with him?
(3) Any signs that I can look out for, as alarm bells?

Thanks in advance.
 


newproject

Active Member
Looks bad.

Weekend he should be the freest.

What the heck is he doing all weekend?

Clearly he is lying about divorce.

What evidence can he give he is going through a divorce?
 

allycinsg

New Member
Looks bad.

Weekend he should be the freest.

What the heck is he doing all weekend?

Clearly he is lying about divorce.

What evidence can he give he is going through a divorce?
Not sure what evidence can one produce regarding divorce proceedings.
 
It's a bootie call so don't think too much. In the wife's and possibly other people's eyes, you could be the home-wrecker.

A deed of separation is not that expensive to obtain.
During my time, it cost $700 and more importantly it gave us the freedom to date and play nookie-nookie with other people.
 

allycinsg

New Member
It's a bootie call so don't think too much. In the wife's and possibly other people's eyes, you could be the home-wrecker.

A deed of separation is not that expensive to obtain.
During my time, it cost $700 and more importantly it gave us the freedom to date and play nookie-nookie with other people.
I am not the reason for their divorce. Accordingly to him, they decided it's over when he met me.

However, I understand what you are saying. I should ask for the deed of separation.
 
I am not the reason for their divorce. Accordingly to him, they decided it's over when he met me.

However, I understand what you are saying. I should ask for the deed of separation.
Never trust a man's word unless it is written in his blood .....

Even if you trust, always verify.

If it is what he says it is, the deed of separation shouldn't be too difficult to obtain. It sets the wheels in motion for the eventual divorce. You'd know if he was serious in his intent ie. divorcing his wife ...
 

allycinsg

New Member
Never trust a man's word unless it is written in his blood .....

Even if you trust, always verify.

If it is what he says it is, the deed of separation shouldn't be too difficult to obtain. It sets the wheels in motion for the eventual divorce. You'd know if he was serious in his intent ie. divorcing his wife ...

Got it ... I need to decide whether to ask or just walk away.
 

eileen85

New Member
if he is in the midst of divorce, for sure there will be some documents such as draft from the lawyer etc. you can always ask him about it....seems fishy that weekends he is not able to reply text..
 

Catin

New Member
Weekend should be very free. Certainly he won’t be spending the time with his soon to be divorced wife. Unless he is spending time with other women .
 

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