Advice needed - Anyone did not chu jia from your parents place?

[zenusorion]

Hi all,
My parents just underwent a divorce and it is near impossible for me to chu jia from my parental place.. In this case, can i chu jia from my new place? Can share your experience or your friend's experience if any?

Thankx!!

 

[happinessbliss]

Hi zenusorion,

I will chu jia from my aunt's place or hotel... as I am not in contact with my father after a fallout too... Nevertheless I will still invite him to the wedding, just that I dun feel that I would want to chu jia from my father's place...

 

[zenusorion]

hi,
is there any traditional taboo from chu jia fr aunt's place? Or is there any traditional thingy that must be done?? I am hoping that i can convince my aunt that it's ok...

Just checking, this is rather juvenile, if u chu jia from hotel, does it mean that u r doing away with gatecrashing? In addition, how are u planning to do your tea ceremony etc??

thankx a million... I m so FAN2 by all these..

 

[happinessbliss]

Hi Zenusorion,

Dun be fan... for me, i am not too bothered abt anything superstitious... I have been staying outside on my own since i was 17... and move to stay with my aunt who is also single abt 6 yrs ago... so i guess it is only natural that i chu jia from here.. My cousin chu jia from Hotel but we still do the gatecrashing just that we have to be mindful of our volume, and make sure that we are not too loud and disturb other guest... When is your AD??

 

[zenusorion]

hi,thankx for sharing...
My AD is 6 Jan.. Urs?

Will discuss Hotel idea with hubby.. cos aunts dun seem too keen to let me chu jia fr their place... if not, will chu jia fr my New place (anyway, me and hubby has been staying tog at new place eversince we ROM)...

 

[happinessbliss]

Mine is on 27 Sept 2008. Wow u must be very busy now... Where is yr banquet venue?

Dun worry abt where u chu jia from ok, cos its not the place that u chu jia from that is important... most important is how u maintain the marraige...

If u chu jia from yr new place, u probably got to get hubby to stay somehwr else (maybe yr in-laws place) the night before wor.... hehe.... but anyway, have fun... its YOUR day, nothing shld bother u...

 

[zenusorion]

hi, yah.. the plan was for u to go back home the nite before.. the mummy didn't want us to meet each other the day before..

My dinner at grand plaza park hotel..

Busy?? not really.. haha. I m a procrastinator... time to do things then i move type.. settle the gdl n dowry thingy.. now got to buy cakes etc..

Thankx gal!! U been a great adviser!!

 

[happinessbliss]

hehe... not a gd adviser la.... i am also learning along the way... din know that wedding can be such hassle lei...
hubby and myself are those who are very scared of hassle, therefore initially did not wan to have wedding dinner, but my relatives were not very happy so no choice lor have to have one... but we decide that we will only have small one and invite only close relatives and frds... hmmm...

 

[shice1]

hihi... u're not the only one.. i might "chu jia" from my new place too.. hopefully it's ok..

thinking positively, if chu jia from new place, ur future hubby and his brothers wun be too rough to "damage" ur new house's grill gate and doors and etc.. hahaha...

 

[happinessbliss]

Hi Shice,

Quite true also...haha...Anyway, like what i have mention earlier, dun be too bothered by where we chu jia from... its the marraige that we need to put xtra effort in... dun you agree???

 

[zenusorion]

Hi all,
Thankx thankx for all the sharing... Was considering a chalet, but I checked out the chevron chalet and it's fully booked...

I guess I prob will stick to chu jia from my new place so long there's no violent objection from any1... thankx again!!! U gals been great!!

Happiness&Bliss, yap... so true.. having the BEST date and fulfilling all tradition is not going to ensure everlasting happiness.. It is ourselves that have to work to maintain the marriage...

 

[hapimint]

hmmm... I am getting chu jia from my sister's home instead as my parents home is quite bad now.... like a hostel....

Then it is my parents and my sister who suggested for me to chu jia from there....

The thing is, my FMIL wants to save the hassle and says that I should go back to my new home instead to her house... haha... I am still wondering is it correct

 

[shice1]

yup.. most importantly is to be happy on that day and cherish ur marriage after that..

my AD still quite far away (jan 09), so cant help much to advise.. good luck!!

 

[yipphy]

hi, my AD is on 18/11/08. i am not sure if this is the right thread but hope u all can give me some advise..

I am from malaysia and my problem is i dont have a house to "chu jia" and i need a place for mine parents to stay as well as my husband to pick up me on the actual wedding day..

Do u all have any advise on the "chu jia" places? Prefer West of singapore. Any one have similar experience to share ???

 

[fruitchick]

anyone can share experiences of when chu jia from the hotel? does it work the same as from the home then? i am having the tea ceremony at hotel too before the dinner and was wondering how I should arrange my timing, etc. as I'm having a simple wedding, not much fuss.

 

[buttonnose]

Yea... i would like to know as well.. I'll be having my rom and tea ceremony just before my AD at the hotel...but i'd like to do the gatecrash in the hotel room too hehe.. the problem is.. i dunno what time would be good. And, i think my parents do not want me to chu jia from the house... very troublesome they say. haiz

Any experiences??

 

[yongyong]

hi hi,

I'm also having same problem as Yipphy. I would need a place to house my parents and siblings from JB, so I'll most probably chujia from my new house. Also thinking of chujia from hotel but not sure which way is better.

 

[frosty]

Hi all:
I am getting married in Sept. Only semi following chinese tradition. My f hb is Australian. He and his family will be picking me and my family up from my sis apartment. We will then return to our new apartment and have tea ceremony there.
AD schedule:
9:00 Bride make up and dressing
10:00 My family gather at my sis apartment (to have bf and waiting for groom)
11:00 groom and family arrive
12:00 All departs for new apartment
12:45 Arrives at new apartment (tea ceremony, lunch, and social)
3:00 Bride and groom leave for hotel

Yipphy: Not sure what the requirements are to book chalets. Maybe can look into booking a chalet.

 

[candyrock]

this thread seems to be neglected. but nevertheless, i'm having thesame problem.

i need a place to chu jia! my parents' home is too small to accomodate 50 people for my tea ceremony...and i can't use my new house as it is still building...any place to recommend for short-term usage??


thanks in advance!

 

[babypie33]

hi jasmine. i hope i am not late. like what the previous ladies had mentioned, you can chu jia from your new place or hotels or chalet...

i also had a fallout with my family thus given my situation, i won't chu jia from my parent's hse. the only concern is my ILs may pantang if i chu jia from my new hse as heard its not good. but they say if me and hb is ok, we shd be able to do that. save money to stay in hotel mah. hehehe....

 

[pql]

Hi Baby pie, I also face a similar situation and I've decided to chu jia and gate crash at the hotel. Only my jiemeis will be staying over night with me, wonder if it will be weird. And the burning of the "dragon & phoenix" candles will be a problem for me cos' hotel surely can't burn anything. Anyone have suggestions?

 

[babypie33]

Shirline> haiz... now my parents wants face. so die die want me to chu jia from their place.
#$%%^$

its not at all weird that your jie meis staying with u. otherwise u staying alone there?

as for the burning of the candles, dun think the hotel allow the burning. for this i am clueless.

 

[meow5]

Service apartment can be an option.

 

[pangie]

haiz I am glad that I am not the only one who is determined to chu jia from my new place. My f hubby has booked a hotel room wif his mates for the night (we are practising the 'not to see the bride before the wedding thingie).

 

[misselfridge]

Hi hi anyone else did gate crashing and tea ceremony at hotel? really need ideas for that...

 

[sweettoe]

Hi, I'm going to chu jia from my sis place. Not sure to give ang bao to her at the end of it as a 好兆头. Cos it seems like whoever help on the wedding AD the couple will have to give ang bao. =) Any advice?

 

[bebeann]

Hi, I'm chu jia from our new house.
I have checked with Master whether it will be fine to chu jia at new house.

He mention that it's alright if parent don't mean.

 

[yakieyaya]

Hi, any1 know why bride and groom cant see each other b4 the chu jia day???

 

[lunaaa]

Hi Joanne, can share with me your Master's contact? You can PM me or email me at [email protected].

 

[leniebaby]

Hi everyone,

is it a must for my relatives to come over to the Hotel for customary? (coz I am intending to chu jia from hotel as I also have the issue of parents fallout -.-).

 

[candycandy001]

Charlene Lim (leniebaby) > Your customary means "tea ceremony" at hotel? Depend la, I will have 2 banquets, 1 in sg, 1 in msia. I only have 1 tea ceremony at hotel, my msia relatives will not come for sg banquet so I only do it to hubby's side & my parent.

 

[swisscheese]

my husband and i both got ready together at the hotel. photography wise it was wonderful as our photog could capture both of us getting ready, and hotel suite was nice and spacious, nice decor, so it made for pretty pictures.

 

[gogobutter]

Hi Swiss,

So both of you all just get ready in the suite den do gate crash at hotel aso?

I dun feel like chu jia from hse cos my hse is so damn messy and untidy.. my mum like to bring rubbish home... (Dun ask me to clean cos its useless!!! haha ) den make the whole hse damn dirty and looks small... myself i am staying in those maid room small small de... tot chu jia from hotel photos everything aso look nicer ma.. but my mum insist wan me to chu jia from hse cos she wanna have a buffet at home... still telling me the house looks nice .. what the hell... haiz.

 

[swisscheese]

Hi Mimi,

Yups both of us got ready in the suite (remember to ask the hotel for early check-in), and the MUA also helped my husband do his hair. We didn't have gate crash as we are both already there. On the other hand, all our brothers and sisters were already there with us when we were getting ready so it's really nice, like a party that starts from early morning. They hung around, got ready and got dressed (we are a small group), listen to music, napped, chitchat, eat breakfast together etc in the suite living room . Very cosy and relaxed feel. We had lots of great (and hilarious) pics of the morning get-ready session, with all the brothers and sisters. Logistically it is also neater (my personal feelings), as everyone is there from the start and can set off at the same time, no last minute delays etc.

I didn't want to chu jia from my house as my room is a bit cramped, old-looking and it doesn't make for nice pictures.

My mum had her buffet at home, as we went there for tea ceremony and she prepared some food for the relatives. I suppose you can gently discourage your mum by saying it is 2 rounds of food (and costs) to feed the gatecrashing round and then the tea ceremony round.

Weddings are stressful, it's about managing expectations and many times people say weddings are for parents. I don't disagree but I also strongly feel that it's for the bridal couple, once in a lifetime, surely we can at least enjoy the day and have the "format" we want!

 

[gogobutter]

Hi Swisscheese..

Oh cos i need to have gatecrash la.. thats why.. so after ur morning den u all jus go back hm for buffet and tea ceremony?

Can ask for early check in?