Advice for gatecrashing and fetching the bride?

[starrie58]

Hi all,

Me and my fiance are thinking to forgo the gatecrashing and fetching the bride thingy. Anybody here does it before? We thought the gatecrashing was really redundant. But at the same time wondering what will be our itinerary like if we forgo the morning events. We are already staying together, our BTO will only be ready in 2020 so we are even skipping the setting matrimonial bed part as we do not want to spend money to change a new bed in the existing house which we will not sleep for long. Our banquet is dinner time, and our tea ceremony needs to go on. So if we were to leave together from our house to tea ceremony, would it be very weird? Appreciate any advices!

 

[coldjade]

Have you spoke to your parents about this?

I wanted to forgo all the morning procedures too because I have Church wedding + Banquet and it's too packed. But my Mom insists a daughter should be picked up from the house she was raised it. If all the elders are okay, then I don't see why you cannot do what you want.

 

[starrie58]

Have you spoke to your parents about this?

I wanted to forgo all the morning procedures too because I have Church wedding + Banquet and it's too packed. But my Mom insists a daughter should be picked up from the house she was raised it. If all the elders are okay, then I don't see why you cannot do what you want.

Yes, i spoke to my mom and she is okay with it. She actually want us to skip everything together, even the guo da li all she no need, and just go for holiday, but its my fiance who insist.

So i was wondering if it will be weird to just skip the morning customary all together.

 

[coldjade]

Yes, i spoke to my mom and she is okay with it. She actually want us to skip everything together, even the guo da li all she no need, and just go for holiday, but its my fiance who insist.

So i was wondering if it will be weird to just skip the morning customary all together.

Maybe ask your Fiance what he hopes to do? He probably feels he should do something for your parents. Maybe give them a treat and some gifts.

 

[starrie58]

Maybe ask your Fiance what he hopes to do? He probably feels he should do something for your parents. Maybe give them a treat and some gifts.

Hahaha. He actually is all for skipping the morning customary! We'll see how it goes!

 

[BadKitty]

Hi all,

Me and my fiance are thinking to forgo the gatecrashing and fetching the bride thingy. Anybody here does it before? We thought the gatecrashing was really redundant. But at the same time wondering what will be our itinerary like if we forgo the morning events. We are already staying together, our BTO will only be ready in 2020 so we are even skipping the setting matrimonial bed part as we do not want to spend money to change a new bed in the existing house which we will not sleep for long. Our banquet is dinner time, and our tea ceremony needs to go on. So if we were to leave together from our house to tea ceremony, would it be very weird? Appreciate any advices!

Some of my friends also skipped the gatecrash. They checked in one night earlier to hotel and fetched bride from hotel. Seems weird to leave the house together... Since there’s no gatecrash, photographer and videographer just focus on the fetching and tea ceremony.