I'm also planning a simple wedding and there'll be no fetching of bride, no gatecrashing, guess might not even need bridal car as well as we're going to take pre-wedding shoots overseas and I'm just going to rent a simple gown for the wedding lunch/tea/celebration.
Everything is still at planning stage so I cant really share my experiences, can only share some ideas I have.

Things that I want to focus on: overseas pre-wedding shoot, classy and nice venue for the lunch (about 100 pax), photography on AD, honeymoon
Other stuff i'll probably do without: bridesmaids, tea ceremony (depends on what my parents say)
In fact, I asked my HTB not to bother about engagement ring and we just focus on getting our wedding bands, as we've actually came to a common agreement to get married instead of him proposing lolx. Is that odd?