Hi pinkbuttons,
Ur r/s wif ur mil cannot be mended so easily anymore. Its worse than the war between US n Iraq,its a never ending Vietnam War,its as complicated as the Japan invasion of Nanking.
The hatred between the both of u is killing everyone including ur hb. N like the wars above, nthg can appease both of u, there will be simply no win-win solutions in sight, not in a few years time.
The real reasons behind may be very complicated. They may not be just wat u see. Many aspects like, cultures, religions, personalities,do play a crucial part in how we interact wif others. Its just tt we can choose wat frds to make or stick around, but we can't choose our spouse's parents or families.
So, if all of u r so suffering, to a point where u wished her dead, then don't wait for ur hb to make a choice; u can make one urself now: choose hb, whom must keep mom wif him; or choose no mil, which means u will hv to separates wif hb.
Forget abt the flat for now ( its urs anyway since u r paying for it), leaves n live apart fr hb n mil. Hb can then assess the real situation n may come up wif new solutions. Be it good or bad to u, just see wat happens then becos during this separation period, u may also see things in a diff light. Who knows? ur mil may also find her light.
Good luck!
Ur r/s wif ur mil cannot be mended so easily anymore. Its worse than the war between US n Iraq,its a never ending Vietnam War,its as complicated as the Japan invasion of Nanking.
The hatred between the both of u is killing everyone including ur hb. N like the wars above, nthg can appease both of u, there will be simply no win-win solutions in sight, not in a few years time.
The real reasons behind may be very complicated. They may not be just wat u see. Many aspects like, cultures, religions, personalities,do play a crucial part in how we interact wif others. Its just tt we can choose wat frds to make or stick around, but we can't choose our spouse's parents or families.
So, if all of u r so suffering, to a point where u wished her dead, then don't wait for ur hb to make a choice; u can make one urself now: choose hb, whom must keep mom wif him; or choose no mil, which means u will hv to separates wif hb.
Forget abt the flat for now ( its urs anyway since u r paying for it), leaves n live apart fr hb n mil. Hb can then assess the real situation n may come up wif new solutions. Be it good or bad to u, just see wat happens then becos during this separation period, u may also see things in a diff light. Who knows? ur mil may also find her light.
Good luck!