I wish I could tell his mom to get out of the house, but I know it’ll only make things even more ugly than they already are. Immediately, she’ll get her gang of relatives to come up to the house then I’ll be outnumbered right? She’s still pissed over being scolded by my dad, cos she still feels she’s right, & my dad has no right to reprimand her. She can scold all she wants, but she cannot be scolded back.
I’m a bit at a loss over what to do. Shld I seek legal advice? My parents & family feel it best to file for separation. They feel that since my hb can’t even shield me from his own mother, how is he expected to take care of me for the rest of my life? They think I’ll be better off without him, which I agree, but just very disappointed & rather heartbroken that it has to come to this.
My aunt consulted a shifu in Malaysia over my problems, supposed to be very good. Normally I don’t believe in geomancy or fortune-telling, but this particular shifu mentioned a lot of things which are very specific & detailed. Not the usual general mumbo-jumbo… some of the things he mentioned were specific details / info which I discovered recently but never mentioned to anyone. Note that he never even met me or my hb, nor has he (or my aunt) even stepped into my house before. All he was given was our address, names & birthdate. Even a non-believer like me is amazed. For e.g.:
1. he looked at our birth dates & said the wife earns more money than the husband (which is true)
2. he said that my mil never liked me from the very beginning. She likes another girl, & wishes her to be her dil, but cos her son chose me, she had no choice but to go along with the wedding first, then decide what to do later. (remember that I mentioned in an earlier post abt my mil wanting to intro hb’s cousin’s ex-girlfriend?)
3. we had entrusted my mil to choose a good wedding date. When the shifu looked at our wedding date which my mil chose for us, and immediately said that it’s a very bad day. He said any proper fengshui master would be able to tell us that, & he said my mil is very vicious, purposely trying all means to tear me & my hb apart.
4. he said that my house is ‘dirty’ & that there are ‘little ghosts’ in our house. He then asked my aunt if there are those ‘fu’ hanging in our place (sorry, dunno how to say – those yellow paper with Chinese writing on it). Anyway, there are 2 which my mil had put up – and the shifu correctly pointed out that there’s 1 red one & another yellow one, with black ink. On this point, my mum had felt very uncomfortable when she initially arrived, & felt that there’s something not right though she never mentioned to my aunt about that.
My aunt asked the shifu for advice, he said to immediately move out of the house (at that point I had yet to find a plc). He said that to continue on with the marriage would mean more suffering on my end, & that my mil would never accept me, and she would never change.
any comments?
