verystress
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Another thing about living habits is washing clothes style. I’m the type who thinks that washing machine should be used for washing clothes and fmil is believes handwash is cleaner. When I first started staying at their place, she insisted to handwash everything, even though I said my clothes can be machined wash, no need to soak first wash later… then she wants me to handwash my panties which I don’t do back at my own home coz I think machine wash is more thorough than handwash as there can be detergent residue, furthermore if her aim is to save water by handwash, it is not possible also because one have to rinse a few times unless very little detergent is used, which I suspected so coz somehow htb shirt doesn’t smell nice after washing… anyway I did handwash for a while although I don’t like her superstitious way of explaining why I should do that, I just find her way of saying things very lame… anyway, because of the handwash panties, I will have to hang the panties way before my other clothes are handwashed by her and hang, and it will be the only piece of clothing on the bamboo poles in the kitchen, which looks very weird, so nowadays I will throw everything into the washing machine to wash right after I shower… one more thing fmil likes to do is to rush out of her room immediately she hears the bathroom door open coz that means htb or me is done with shower and she wants to wash the clothes immediately, regardless of time whether 8pm, 11pm, or 1am… and she will closed the kitchen windows completely and the clothes will be left to air dry in the kitchen until next morning when she wakes up around 9am, if it’s dry completely she won’t hang out the clothes to ‘sun’ at all, or if it’s still damp she will just hang out to sun only for a short while, thus htb’s shirt always have that slight men’s smell…
This closing windows thing is not just to the kitchen but the whole house, and hence whenever we return home and open the door, there will be an odour attacking right at us, I can’t help but to imagine my house next time to be a stinky one, and it just makes me so sad…
She also have the habit of appearing frightened or shocked whenever I walk along or opposite path of her, even though she already sees me walking towards her direction… I’m just normal size and not blocking the whole passage way, yet she will jump and look frightened by me and will stop short her walk to let me pass before she continues walking, this makes me feel uncomfortable as if I’m alien or something.
I don’t think fmil is a super clean freak although she tries to clean certain things her certain way, but there are a lot of stuff she doesn’t bother like basin, tiles, tabletops in bedroom, and she can just leave the sofa in the living room ‘messy’ instead of putting back the cushion properly, and she can make the bed without opening the windows to air it and let out the dust whenever one puff up the pillows…
Another thing is how I arranged the photoframes, accessories in htb’s bedsidetables, I mean, those are our photos and stuff, yet she will re-adjust to the way she wants it, coz whenever I read magazines or books I will need a certain amount of space to put and so the photoframes cannot be right in the middle of the bedsidetable so I pushed it to the back, and she will push it back when I’m not there, or re-adjust to the way she likes it… which I find it very irritating… which also lead us to think that she actually check through our bags and belongings and wardrobe to see what we have and don’t have, and this is so scary and an invasion to our privacy.
And although fmil doesn’t cook often, whenever she cooks, I feel disgusted that she actually sneeze or cough without moving away, and she will add salt and soya sauce into her soup to make it ‘tasty’, and will do the tasting and not keep to proper hygiene… To her, I’m the weirdo who doesn’t finish up the sugary water in those canned fruits, and eat little rice, when in fact, I just don’t want to adapt to her in-nutritious eating habits, without proper vitamins, proteins, etc.
there was once when htb, fmil, and I happened to share a table with a very old, wise, and rich couple, who happened to shared with us their stories and how gambling isn’t good, fmil was shaking head and kept wanting to elbow me and signal to me that that couple is so wrong about gambling and she has seen much more world than anyone else in the world, I just ignored her and find her attitude super irritating… can you imagine she is the type of mother who brought her own son, then 7 year old, to gambling dens after school, not caring if he has done his homework or have eaten, until late at night although next day still have school, and because of running away from loansharks, the then primary school boy has to walk to school every morning at 5am all alone, no proper place to do homework and study, and sometimes take shower, and she even brought htb to gamble when he grew up so that he can gamble and won’t say anything about her gambling habits… and she actually finds me a freak for so anti-gambling and ‘clean’ and that my family and people who don’t gamble are complete idiots and stupid to the world ‘happenings’
I’m very depressed and stress that I will have to live with a woman like that next time, if not for the persuasion of htb and the many endless quarrel I’ve had with htb on these issues that there is no way fmil and her bf has the financial means to live on their own becoz of her gambling habits… I’m also very worried that she will become a bad influence to our kids next time… and I still remember what she once said in her very snobbish tone in front of me and htb that ‘she wun live long/ forever’ to be inconvenient to us, although she actually was indirectly saying it to make her seem ‘weaker’ and me being ‘unreasonable’ to want to live on our own… there are more stories about fmil, and also all the superstitious ideas she has been inputting to my htb that woman is ‘low class’ and ‘dirty’ etc making htb to actually make some comments about me and my habits that make me feel sad and low class becoz I’m a woman until I corrected htb that there is no such things, but there is no way to ‘clean’ my htb’s mind when she constantly has been inputting all these nonsense ideas into him… I so very much hate her…
This closing windows thing is not just to the kitchen but the whole house, and hence whenever we return home and open the door, there will be an odour attacking right at us, I can’t help but to imagine my house next time to be a stinky one, and it just makes me so sad…
She also have the habit of appearing frightened or shocked whenever I walk along or opposite path of her, even though she already sees me walking towards her direction… I’m just normal size and not blocking the whole passage way, yet she will jump and look frightened by me and will stop short her walk to let me pass before she continues walking, this makes me feel uncomfortable as if I’m alien or something.
I don’t think fmil is a super clean freak although she tries to clean certain things her certain way, but there are a lot of stuff she doesn’t bother like basin, tiles, tabletops in bedroom, and she can just leave the sofa in the living room ‘messy’ instead of putting back the cushion properly, and she can make the bed without opening the windows to air it and let out the dust whenever one puff up the pillows…
Another thing is how I arranged the photoframes, accessories in htb’s bedsidetables, I mean, those are our photos and stuff, yet she will re-adjust to the way she wants it, coz whenever I read magazines or books I will need a certain amount of space to put and so the photoframes cannot be right in the middle of the bedsidetable so I pushed it to the back, and she will push it back when I’m not there, or re-adjust to the way she likes it… which I find it very irritating… which also lead us to think that she actually check through our bags and belongings and wardrobe to see what we have and don’t have, and this is so scary and an invasion to our privacy.
And although fmil doesn’t cook often, whenever she cooks, I feel disgusted that she actually sneeze or cough without moving away, and she will add salt and soya sauce into her soup to make it ‘tasty’, and will do the tasting and not keep to proper hygiene… To her, I’m the weirdo who doesn’t finish up the sugary water in those canned fruits, and eat little rice, when in fact, I just don’t want to adapt to her in-nutritious eating habits, without proper vitamins, proteins, etc.
there was once when htb, fmil, and I happened to share a table with a very old, wise, and rich couple, who happened to shared with us their stories and how gambling isn’t good, fmil was shaking head and kept wanting to elbow me and signal to me that that couple is so wrong about gambling and she has seen much more world than anyone else in the world, I just ignored her and find her attitude super irritating… can you imagine she is the type of mother who brought her own son, then 7 year old, to gambling dens after school, not caring if he has done his homework or have eaten, until late at night although next day still have school, and because of running away from loansharks, the then primary school boy has to walk to school every morning at 5am all alone, no proper place to do homework and study, and sometimes take shower, and she even brought htb to gamble when he grew up so that he can gamble and won’t say anything about her gambling habits… and she actually finds me a freak for so anti-gambling and ‘clean’ and that my family and people who don’t gamble are complete idiots and stupid to the world ‘happenings’
I’m very depressed and stress that I will have to live with a woman like that next time, if not for the persuasion of htb and the many endless quarrel I’ve had with htb on these issues that there is no way fmil and her bf has the financial means to live on their own becoz of her gambling habits… I’m also very worried that she will become a bad influence to our kids next time… and I still remember what she once said in her very snobbish tone in front of me and htb that ‘she wun live long/ forever’ to be inconvenient to us, although she actually was indirectly saying it to make her seem ‘weaker’ and me being ‘unreasonable’ to want to live on our own… there are more stories about fmil, and also all the superstitious ideas she has been inputting to my htb that woman is ‘low class’ and ‘dirty’ etc making htb to actually make some comments about me and my habits that make me feel sad and low class becoz I’m a woman until I corrected htb that there is no such things, but there is no way to ‘clean’ my htb’s mind when she constantly has been inputting all these nonsense ideas into him… I so very much hate her…