pinkbuttons
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sm, i can see where u are coming from, but it was never my intention to ask for maintenance.
while i upkeep my end of the monthly installments on the house & other miscellaneous items, but for whose enjoyment? for my husband and his mother to enjoy? shld i write-off monies which i had lent to pay his credit card debts? we're not talking about a measly few hundred dollars, it's a significant sum of money.
yes, i am capable of earning my own keep, but does that mean i shld be obligated to finance the comforts that they are currently enjoying without any responsibility to bear on his own, other than their PUB bills & his monthly 'allowance' to his mother? if he can afford to give his mom $800 per month as an allowance for sitting at home, can he not afford to start repaying me, even in installments? if the money were loaned from a friend, and not me, i'm sure that he would make sure that loan is repayed. i regret offering to loan him the money in the 1st place, shld've just let him borrow from JAMES or something... i was too naive to think that i was helping him save on the high interest rates. even the notional rent that my lawyer is asking for on my behalf, i tried to keep to as low a figure which i believe he can afford. may be a pinch on his pocket, but he has to hold some responsibility for things turning out this way?
i agree legal fees are hefty. currently i'm at a very preliminary stage. will definitely see how it develops before i decide on which route to pursue.
Mozz, i pray that i'll be as fortunate as you to meet someone better =)
while i upkeep my end of the monthly installments on the house & other miscellaneous items, but for whose enjoyment? for my husband and his mother to enjoy? shld i write-off monies which i had lent to pay his credit card debts? we're not talking about a measly few hundred dollars, it's a significant sum of money.
yes, i am capable of earning my own keep, but does that mean i shld be obligated to finance the comforts that they are currently enjoying without any responsibility to bear on his own, other than their PUB bills & his monthly 'allowance' to his mother? if he can afford to give his mom $800 per month as an allowance for sitting at home, can he not afford to start repaying me, even in installments? if the money were loaned from a friend, and not me, i'm sure that he would make sure that loan is repayed. i regret offering to loan him the money in the 1st place, shld've just let him borrow from JAMES or something... i was too naive to think that i was helping him save on the high interest rates. even the notional rent that my lawyer is asking for on my behalf, i tried to keep to as low a figure which i believe he can afford. may be a pinch on his pocket, but he has to hold some responsibility for things turning out this way?
i agree legal fees are hefty. currently i'm at a very preliminary stage. will definitely see how it develops before i decide on which route to pursue.
Mozz, i pray that i'll be as fortunate as you to meet someone better =)