Emy,
I did those stuff u mentioned, but not appreciated:
1) buy food back : 'criticise' i dunno how to choose watermelon, my da-bao food not good
2) stay over for dinner : almost fortnights, but once we wanted to eat out alone, she laments and blew up.
3)bring her out to eat: most of the time resist cos travelling and Q-ing is tiring (drive own car, not take public transport!), she needs to zxz early 9-10pm so its v rush and can only go nearby malls.
I hv done my duty to be respectful towards her n keep quiet whenever i see or hear stuff that makes me uncomfortable. Yes, u r right, she is the 'breaking pt' of our relationship, the only source of our countless quarrel.
My bf hv been putting in effort to educate n talk to his mum but no use. She is stubborn.
After her 'leave home' incident on monday, it really scares me, that she will use same tatic in e future to get things her way n harm my marriage. Now that i witness her 'sacry tatics', even more no-no to stay with her. Actually, while she was missing, i told my bf that since she is so upset that drove her to leave, i shall give in and end this tug-of-war. However, i changed my mind and decided that she doesnt deserve my sacrifice. Reason: she came back home herself and was again shouting n screaming, lamenting that her son unfilial, abandons her etc. All these, i heard while i was over the phone with my bf. Imagine, he was in bedroom and she in hall, it was so loud already.
i think i cannot tolerate such behaviour and put my future and relationship with bf at risk when we get married. Thoughts of ending our relationship keeps flooding my mind whenver his mum comes into the pic. But i didnt bear to do it cos he really did put in effort, like quarelling and opposing his mother, which thru out his 30 yrs did not.
I think i am the one who needs counseling and call the helpline now. She's causing me distress n depression..........