aiyo look for friends also must be compatible?
To me, if we are happy as friends then we remain as friends and do things together - movies, dinner, outings, holidays etc etc etc.. if not happy then don't go out with them .. simple
Mostly people are disappointed because they have too much expectations? I mean, I don't really have problem making friends - from young people in their early 20s to those in 40s..
It is good that some of them share common interest - like if you jog then find jogging friends, if you play mahjong find mahjong kakis, if you like nature find nature lovers; if you like mountain trekking find those similar; if you like photography then find the same kind; and if you have varied interests then very soon you have different groups of friends to do different things together.
To me, I have no expectations. If one group of friends are not free I go to the next. If none of them are free then I savour the me-time to do the things that I like to do alone.
And at 31 you already have a problem finding friends? OMG. I am much much older than 31 and I don't have this problem. Maybe you want to look at yourself? Is it your mindset or your problem? If you are at home 100% of the time, don't expect to make friends. Actually not really true because I do have a lot of online friends - people that I can connect with and we communicate online although we NEVER met. They are a new breed of online friends. And some of these online friends turned into real friends as we do meet after a while.