A few questions....from Gan Jiong Bride to Be
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Hi Poshies,
I just started researching around for my preparations too. Could you send me your file, pls? Thanks very much. [email protected]
I just started researching around for my preparations too. Could you send me your file, pls? Thanks very much. [email protected]
preshmoments
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hi ladies...
sorry long long time din come into this forum...will be sending the list to u short...
btw can help to vote for my boy - Gerald http://www.wyethnutrition.com.sg/sg/adorablekidscontest/profile.asp?category=6-11&BID=272
1 vote per day per computer... voting till 31 mar... thanks alot
sorry long long time din come into this forum...will be sending the list to u short...
btw can help to vote for my boy - Gerald http://www.wyethnutrition.com.sg/sg/adorablekidscontest/profile.asp?category=6-11&BID=272
1 vote per day per computer... voting till 31 mar... thanks alot
Hi Poshies,
Could you send the list to mee as well? Thanks!!!
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By the way, your boy is CUTE!!!
Could you send the list to mee as well? Thanks!!!
[email protected]
By the way, your boy is CUTE!!!
lilostitch
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shootingstarz
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Hi to all,
there are some queries to ask, very confused, hope you gals can help me out here..
1) wandering when we say ask the bride’s side how many tables they want before we sign the banquet, & they say 5 tables, does it mean that bride’s side inviting 5 tables, then we book banquet counting their requested tables thats all? Or it already means that beside inviting 5 tables of ppl, they are asking for 5 no. tables of angbaos too? Or for this is a separate issue & we ask it seperately too?
2)If let say groom’s side giving the bride’s side 5 tables..but not all the angbaos are given to the bride's parents at the banquet,( like some relatives give brides parents, some put angbao box, some give me) how do we go about knowing how much angbaos $ are we suppose to give back to the brides parents?
3) During tea ceremony, who are the ppl that we need to serve tea besides both side’s parents? Any uncle or aunty needed? (Groom side only or both side?)Younger sibling, nephews, niece need to serve us tea?
4)For the banquet, 70% of the guests wedding card wil be provided..then what are we suppose to do for the remaining 30%?
thank you so much
there are some queries to ask, very confused, hope you gals can help me out here..
1) wandering when we say ask the bride’s side how many tables they want before we sign the banquet, & they say 5 tables, does it mean that bride’s side inviting 5 tables, then we book banquet counting their requested tables thats all? Or it already means that beside inviting 5 tables of ppl, they are asking for 5 no. tables of angbaos too? Or for this is a separate issue & we ask it seperately too?
2)If let say groom’s side giving the bride’s side 5 tables..but not all the angbaos are given to the bride's parents at the banquet,( like some relatives give brides parents, some put angbao box, some give me) how do we go about knowing how much angbaos $ are we suppose to give back to the brides parents?
3) During tea ceremony, who are the ppl that we need to serve tea besides both side’s parents? Any uncle or aunty needed? (Groom side only or both side?)Younger sibling, nephews, niece need to serve us tea?
4)For the banquet, 70% of the guests wedding card wil be provided..then what are we suppose to do for the remaining 30%?
thank you so much
Hi Shootingstarz,
1) It should be the same. Meaning the groom side will give 5 tables to the bride and all the angbaos from those 5 tables will go to the bride side.
2) I believe most of them will include their names in the ang bao. So this settle your problem.
3) I think it depends on your custom. As for us, we will be serving tea to parents, uncles and aunty. Younger silblings will serve to us.
4) Not 100% of those you invited requires invitaiton cards. Eg, when you invite a family of 5, only one invitation card is needed. Hence, the 70% rule.
1) It should be the same. Meaning the groom side will give 5 tables to the bride and all the angbaos from those 5 tables will go to the bride side.
2) I believe most of them will include their names in the ang bao. So this settle your problem.
3) I think it depends on your custom. As for us, we will be serving tea to parents, uncles and aunty. Younger silblings will serve to us.
4) Not 100% of those you invited requires invitaiton cards. Eg, when you invite a family of 5, only one invitation card is needed. Hence, the 70% rule.
shootingstarz
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Hi Steve,
thanx alot for clearing my doubts.. in this case, if my parents are asking for 10 tables (out of a total of 20 tables) to invite their guests, then all the angbaos will have to give them too? so only half of the banquet tables are for us already..
btw, when is your AD?
Oh yes, When serving tea.. did anyone had theirs or intending to have theirs at the hotel instead at homes? If any, pls kindly advice how can i go about doing it.
Thx
thanx alot for clearing my doubts.. in this case, if my parents are asking for 10 tables (out of a total of 20 tables) to invite their guests, then all the angbaos will have to give them too? so only half of the banquet tables are for us already..
btw, when is your AD? Oh yes, When serving tea.. did anyone had theirs or intending to have theirs at the hotel instead at homes? If any, pls kindly advice how can i go about doing it.
Thx
hi shootingstarz,
traditionally, the gal's parents will take the angbaos from the tables which the guy's parents give the gal's parents. Cos with the tables come the angbaos. But in modern days cos the couple and not the guy's parents pay for the wedding dinner, the gal's parents return the angbaos taken from those tables back to the couple.
traditionally, the gal's parents will take the angbaos from the tables which the guy's parents give the gal's parents. Cos with the tables come the angbaos. But in modern days cos the couple and not the guy's parents pay for the wedding dinner, the gal's parents return the angbaos taken from those tables back to the couple.
hi hapict, if religion is not "traditional belief" or if families are christians, then there won't be offering of incense to ancestors. Some pple have it in the privacy of the hotel suite before the wedding reception.
It may be unusual to have it during wedding reception if the elders expect you to kneel to offer tea.
It may be unusual to have it during wedding reception if the elders expect you to kneel to offer tea.
Hi hapict, it might be better to discuss with both families how the AD schedule would be. Some chinese families expect the couple to kneel and present tea to the parents. Other elders, no need to kneel. Actually, some chinese families kneel to give tea to parents during chinese new year also....
Normally must go to guy's house during AD cos gal must be formally introduced and accepted by guy's family even if no insence offering. But these days, it's common for this to be done at a neutral venue, like a private room in a church if solemnization is in a church or in a hotel room.
Normally must go to guy's house during AD cos gal must be formally introduced and accepted by guy's family even if no insence offering. But these days, it's common for this to be done at a neutral venue, like a private room in a church if solemnization is in a church or in a hotel room.
jan 07. i decided oni in jun. cos i was busy with work, now then start preparing. n all venues taken up cos tat day gd date. so i m doing lunch, which is just as well...as my sis says it falls within the auspicious hr tho u/someone advised sayin the auspicious hr oni for GDL. got emphasie to ppl lor it's sit down 8 course ch lunch. haha
wheere's yours?
wheere's yours?
I also heard that auspicious hour only relevant for customary tea ceremony, GDL and the An Chuang.
Have you decided on a place for your lunch? If not, another way pple do it is to have the wedding dinner one day after the tea ceremony. I'm doing it this way cos future in-laws want 29 Sept 07. But venue (fiance chose Shang for wedding dinner) already booked for 29 Sept 07 so we are doing dinner on 30 Sept 07 instead. Our parents are okay with it. Actually, FSIL did it this way also a few years ago (Sat-customary tea, Sun-wedding dinner).
Have you decided on a place for your lunch? If not, another way pple do it is to have the wedding dinner one day after the tea ceremony. I'm doing it this way cos future in-laws want 29 Sept 07. But venue (fiance chose Shang for wedding dinner) already booked for 29 Sept 07 so we are doing dinner on 30 Sept 07 instead. Our parents are okay with it. Actually, FSIL did it this way also a few years ago (Sat-customary tea, Sun-wedding dinner).
hi poshie, can send me the list pls?
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