A Divorce Guy vs A Divorce Girl

[verysadguy]

Let's say a guy who is a divorcee and a girl who is a divorcee, who actually has a better chance of finding the other half after the divorce?

In other words, who stands a better chance of getting remarried in the future?

 

[cuclainne]

both stand an equal chance ..

 

[vios]

The question is not all that life-changing. But if it's for the sake of your curiousity, i would think that it depends on the person. Subjective.

What's more crucial, i would say, is the person who acknowledges the divorce as a valuable experience in his/her life and derives the lessons learnt....

will stand a very high chance of finding Real Happiness in the next marriage.

 

[sgbabydoll]

It depends on what they want in a partner.

Such things cannot be generalised.....

 

[eunice82]

verysadguy: it depends on individual.

Some divorcees just simply doesn't learn't their lesson and they may get to remarry fast but yet end up divorcing again...

I used to think woman who are divorce finds it difficult to remarry esp with kids but yet i saw my friends all happily married and the husband loves their kids very much.

Of course there are cases where they dislike the kids very much as well.

Honestly i feel divorcee (man) tends to have a higher chance of remarrying faster than woman...

Cheers

 

[saggitarian]

no ans ..

it depends on too many factors .

chracters . social circle.. personality..

 

[findingnemo]

I have girl and guy friends who are divorced before and now happily re-married and have their own kids. In their first marriages, they did not have kids.

For those with kids (female colleague/ex colleagues) they are sill single and their kids are big. Although they did not remarry, they dated.

 

[sillyoldjo]

i find guys easier to remarry.. cos basciallt the society can hardly accept a divorced woman.. i m a good example.. broke up cos his parents objected. on the basis i m a po4xie1 and being 6 yrs older than him. i m feelg so painful in me.

 

[mark78]

sillyjo. feel glad that her mum objected. As this kind of "weak" man may not be able to face the harsh reality of this pragmatic world and faltered in the future

 

[sillyoldjo]

u tink this way? i knw he is feelg the pain in him... juz dont understand .. being together is it not a 2Party thing? thot parents will wan their children to b happy. my bro is wit a divorced woman and 6 yrs older than him.. my mum dint even come up wit such objection.. y me?

 

[miloice]

What is the purpose of this question? this is not a math question that u can weigh like this. Every individual differs, regardless of the gender. So, this is a stupid question.

You are having problems with this specific guy. It has nothing to do with anyone else actually. So, recognize him for who he is. No excuses about it.

It may be true that the society especially older folks would discriminate. But, we live for ourselves not others. There is no need to please the world.

 

[sillyoldjo]

my prob is wit his parents. not him. i recognize him for who he is. its juz tt his parents threaten to disown him and not recognise our marriage if we were to b together

 

[miloice]

u don't get it... u r blaming his parents but not recognizing the fact of his decision. It reflects about him doesn't it? i.e. Nevermind how unreasonable the demands are, he will always give in to his parents even letting go of a woman he loves. What happens if his parents allows the marriage but forces him on other ridiculous demand after?

Put it in another perspective. We see how the hate is always fallen on the '3rd party' but not on how the marriage or spouse fails. There are alot more to one single view. We cannot determine and choose what circumstances to be in. We only determine on how to react to them.

 

[sillyoldjo]

yes i dont get it. he shd hve juz let me slp and leave.

 

[miloice]

Well... should have. If only I know the toto result, I would have retired long ago.

I repeat, we cannot determine and choose what circumstances to be in. From this experience, it does reflect what his priorities and views are about the relationship. Yes, his feelings for you might be true but he is not willing to see through with it without family support. Respect that decision and move on.

 

[evilprincess]

sillyjo, i understand how u feel...was in the same situation as u

weakling bf cant stand up to his parents for me...they cant accept my son from my first marriage...

aft tat episode, i gave up hope that i'll ever find happiness or ever remarry.

i must say...its not impossible for divorcee to remarry...but its close to impossible to for divorcee with a kid/s to remarry.

guess what, i've come to learnt that divorced women tends to attract a certain class of shameless species...the married men!

 

[sillyoldjo]

hi evilprincess,

i m juz upset wit tis world.

 

[evilprincess]

hi sillyjo, i understand how u feel.

you need the support of friends now