charmaine82
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Ive been married for 3 years but it has been a very very unhappy marriage though in my previous topic i did mention i wan concieve.
We got married @ very young age after we known each other for 1/2 year (im 24 while my husband 23),all my relatives & colleagues thought we are shotgun marriage,but it is not.
We married out of a moment of foolishness as we thought as long as we loved each other,it doesnt matter how old/young we get married.
However,after 1 year into the marriage,i find that my hubby is not the 1..he has been good to me except his bad tempered character. We alwys tend to quarrel over financial issues so often.
At that same time,i get to know this guy "M" & fell in love with him. I tried to hold back & "M" knew im married. And @ the same time,things get worse btwn me & my hubby over the financial issues till he beats me twice & there is once my neighbour saw him use knife point towards me & report police.I even have to explain to police so that they will not arrest him.
At that moment,i blew it & left home to cool off. "M" accompany me whole night (we did not do anything indecent).
He's been very decent towards me & he mentions that he will wait for me to made up a decision whether to divorce with my hubby.
He also been helping financially without any grumbling except asking me to accompany him for dinner or movies & get jealous when i accompany my hubby more.
He hopes to marry me but i told him i cant give up my marriage now.
He says he will wait for me.
I feel very confused now. I tot if my hubby & i have a baby,we will have a more stable marriage & i can just cut off the rship btwn me & "M".
I know this way is not right,but im loss. I do not know what to do
Advise pls... should i give up "M" or should i give my hubby last chance to change his bad tempered character?
We got married @ very young age after we known each other for 1/2 year (im 24 while my husband 23),all my relatives & colleagues thought we are shotgun marriage,but it is not.
We married out of a moment of foolishness as we thought as long as we loved each other,it doesnt matter how old/young we get married.
However,after 1 year into the marriage,i find that my hubby is not the 1..he has been good to me except his bad tempered character. We alwys tend to quarrel over financial issues so often.
At that same time,i get to know this guy "M" & fell in love with him. I tried to hold back & "M" knew im married. And @ the same time,things get worse btwn me & my hubby over the financial issues till he beats me twice & there is once my neighbour saw him use knife point towards me & report police.I even have to explain to police so that they will not arrest him.
At that moment,i blew it & left home to cool off. "M" accompany me whole night (we did not do anything indecent).
He's been very decent towards me & he mentions that he will wait for me to made up a decision whether to divorce with my hubby.
He also been helping financially without any grumbling except asking me to accompany him for dinner or movies & get jealous when i accompany my hubby more.
He hopes to marry me but i told him i cant give up my marriage now.
He says he will wait for me.
I feel very confused now. I tot if my hubby & i have a baby,we will have a more stable marriage & i can just cut off the rship btwn me & "M".
I know this way is not right,but im loss. I do not know what to do
Advise pls... should i give up "M" or should i give my hubby last chance to change his bad tempered character?