Guesss, is it a rant to lament about your situation then? You can proactively widen your social circle, you have correctly identified the issue and can improve on it. Make the best out of the situation, you cannot reverse the clock.
Here's a simple guide to finding guys at 40yo when, if not already, your menopause should hit you very soon...
At 40yo, your range of guys (you'd NEED a mature dick) should be around 37yo and above, but those who will be likely interested in you should be those above 45yo. Below 45yo, men will usually hunt for 20+ girls...
At this junction, those who are not yet married... you have to decide what you really want. If you want the 'gold', very hard lar... If you want handsome mature men, why should they choose you? If you want the simple average guys... ok lor.
But what you are really looking at are guys who are GOOD and will stay with you, then hopefully love develops.
Guess there is no hard and fast "answer" to respond to you. There never is any in life.
I guess relatively speaking, it is harder, if u are comparing to the times in your youthful days, but doesnt mean u 'resign' to your 'fate'.
Like what some said in the forum, u can widen yr social circle. Just start somewhere. Cant wait at home and expect to fall in love with the next guy that comes along right? Or seriously, what is the probability that you walk into the supermarket and experience love at first sight there?
For most girls in most cases, it is indeed that they fall in love with the first available guy who looks like fulfilled requirements. LOL~
Of cos it's harder.
At 40, you compete with those at 20yo, very soon her period will be gone, can't even expect to have baby, so her choice is only to look for a companion in life to rot. But which man will be the unlucky chap?
Assuming she is well maintained, she'd still attract those lustful lechers.
But it's not the end of the world if she is an exceptional woman... no gossip, got brains, got virtues...
Yes. Most normal women want a companion. But then... how many guys won't want a baby? Especially at your age, the guys you most appeal to will be to at 45 or above, these guys... they want children.
Know why when women got ditched at 40yo are pitiful...? Many are facing menopause, and they can't have babies.
I can only handle your enquiry based on general knowledge.
If you do not club and is the decent type of LADY, then expose yourself to mature men, it's easier to establish a MEANINGFUL relationship with a decent man as a decent lady.
Know many women who were lians... they thot of sleeping with men, and hope to have relationships at 40s... Seen many, many ended up with 3 relationships with badasses... who never really cared about their 'companions'.
So... you still got hope. Besides, a lady-like lady draws attention from younger group of mature DECENT men...
I myself am drawn to lady-like decent women... LOL~
Actually many 'friends' I knew are also drawn to ladies... not lians.
Being a lady, it'd be easier to start a proper decent relationship call 'friendship', then take it up one step.
The thing is not about u looking young or old...the thing is ur face might not show ur age...but ur body wun lies woh....it make u very very much less appealing if a man wants a kid..u are better off finding a companion bah..as for marriage hard la...coz ppl usually get married if they want kids...if no kids....very much likely they wun want marriage bah....
I have couple of friends met their partner when they're in their late 30s. Just need the right time to meet the right partner who didn't want to have kids too.
My gf had her sterilization done and her partner is aware of it, they got married last year.
u'll be surprised that many guys considered ladies in such age group to be attractive, be it independence, confidence level,and they can be very presentable and matured in their mindset and communication.
The only thing stopping them from approaching is thinking those ladies are already married or with kids.
For guys, sad to say that most of us who have already become a "chiongster" would be hard to give up the trill of hunting in the forest for the sake of a single tree. Woman's charter makes it all the more difficult for them to break out of this cycle.
Looking out for those that still have a religious faith is a way of differentiating those that still can be "redeemed". Good luck in ur hunting, ladies.
I like to post unintelligible replies without using my brains too. Look, i can do better.
"Do you just string words together and pretend they mean something? Four paragraphs of completely illogical and irrelevant series of assertions."
what you just said, is one of the most insanely idiotic things i've ever heard. At no point, in you random incoherent response, you were even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this thread is now dumber for having listening to it. I reward you no points and may God have mercy on your soul.
Finding a woman attractive and wanting to marry her are 2 different things. On one hand, TS should not be too pessimistic and negative to give up, on the other, she has no time to cling onto false hopes.
Don't waste time on guys that have a different plan, some are there to 'hunt' for sex only. She needs to be realistic and take actions to be proactive to create and find opportunities, date more, be open, go for speed dates, sharpen her judgement and explore those that are more probable to pursue marriage with her. Don't waste time with hints, that's for puppy love. TS is no puppy.
Hi, not to old to look for a bf. think it in a companion point of view. My point is, u can be happy being alone.. know more frens, pick up new activities. Spend ur time constructively.. den u will b happy
To be honest, it's perfectly fine to find a boyfriend at 40 or even 50 but marriage is highly unlikely ..if man wants to get marry, he would have much earlier . Chances are he is a player or just wants companionship and not lifetime commitment. Harsh tho but its largely true. Again, there is nothing wrong with that, ain't you also seeking companionship .