36 woes.

[sweet_40]

Scope, how does she feels towards u? Is she happy in her marriage? Since u loves her n I think u shd just let her know gentle. (not too aggressive)

If it is a one sided love then u shd let go n move on coz the One maybe still waiting for u. As for yr current girlfriend, if u no longer love her u shd also let her go.

Love is not the same as pity, it will lead u nowhere. She maybe hurt n sad but she will also b able to move on. By dragging it the hurt n pain will b even greater. Let her go so she can find her One, too.

If the One u loves also love u then both of u can also move on. Her hubby may b hurt but at least there is no lies.

There is nothing more hurting when there is only lies n no truth in a relationship.

 

[scopefun]

Sweet,

I don't need to care how she feels towards me, I fear she'd even feel for me... She is the wife of another man, my love for her may be real, but the honor stands. She has chosen, and it is best that her husband loves her as much as I do, and she sticks to her husband.

Even if she were to be divorced, even if her husband is not worthy of her, my love for her doesn't mean we can be together. I am no spare tyre, Sweet.

As much as I am reluctant... I have to wish her happy in the marriage.

It's one sided, I have tried to forget her over about 20 years but... I'd never forget her. And I intend to keep it this way. Sweet, in love, it's a blessing and a curse to have such a One. There is no moving on, because true love is true love and it lasts forever.

Seriously, I fear she remembers me and I fear she feels for me. Because one of us must resist, else...

Relationship is not merely love, but there is a certain 'responsibility'... After all, the current woman has been around when I was down, and we had sweet memories. Relationship is not a credit and debit where 1-1=0.

Whenever I look at her, as with all the women I had, I wish to do something for her. I want her to happy. It's not enjoyable. But as a man, women are not just sex object. There is something called 情. That's why I am tolerant to her bastard son with that jerk.

Easily known, to be me is bound to be unhappy. Because if I were to be 'happy', I'd happily ditched her and her bastard son and pursue the married woman I love regardless her situation, that man... for my selfish desire.

I have thought of leaving her to find her One... But to be honest, nobody in this world can tolerate her character, men just want to fock her. If it wasn't for me, she could end up a hooker because her family is immoral and she is under heavy influence from her family.

Nobody is waiting for me... Every girl I know wants marriage and sex, and knows nothing about love. How can relationship be formed with the version of love in their brains which are wrong? Love to them is selfishness, minute, shortsighted, possessiveness, and... a paper.

Love is, because I love the married woman I can never take a step forward. I love her more than my selfish desire.

Hence, I am an unhappy man.

I want to protect the woman who betrayed me... whom I no longer love.

Hence, I am an unhappy man.

I left my girlfriends crying...

Hence, I am an unhappy man.

I know how to be happy... but that'd be very cruel to many people if I'd be made happy.

Hence, I am an unhappy man.

I must be a moron to that married woman, because being too sweet to her is bad news...

Hence, I am an unhappy man.

Therefore, I need to be entertained by low-IQ morons here who sang the big songs of how love should be, how to be happy, how simplistic decisions and relationships... Reading the morons make me laugh.

If it is so easy to let go... if it is simply to make myself happy... if I can just see her again... when I know where she work, she lives, she goes for holidays... if everything is just a simple big talk cock...

Morons... ...

So Sweet, realise one thing...?

If there were to be someone waiting for me, that someone has to be an angel. Someone who'd care for how I feel, who won't tell me to just dump anyone for her... who'd love me for who I am, and know what love is, and love me real.

Simply, who fits in the equation? I know there isn't such an angel in the real world.

Firstly, I love a married woman, and I can't move on. Secondly, I feel obliged to care for a poor stupid woman whose beauty ensures her endless crisis with moronic men... Thirdly, I can't forget all the rest of the girlfriends... so when need be, I'd visit them and care for them. Lastly, I demand love.

 

[susanna_low]

since so complicated, the next best solution is to be a monk and cut off all ties from earth.

Dun bish me ar..i m just being frank.

 

[scopefun]

No lah, better castrate... LOL~

Bash you for what?
??????

 

[susanna_low]

Lols!! Tt's a good one!

 

[scopefun]

LOL~ Very funny.

 

[soisuka]

If u care abt the current woman whom u think is stupid, leave her, you'll be doing her a favour. What makes u think she won't wake up one day and leave u? Or perhaps she already wants to. If she chooses to be a hooker, that's her choice, IMHO, I think that's preferable to being w you, who apparently think ur god and somehow feel ur gonna save her. I will pray for her and maybe for u.

 

[_bb]

looking young is a good thing, isnt it?

Not all ladies in their 20s are immature and not all ladies in theire 30s are mature.. my humble pov..

 

[scopefun]

Soisuka,

LOL~

The current woman is stupid, when she left for a jerk, I did pray that she have met someone who is worthy for her. But I knew she'd come back to this 'God' here, because she has a character no man can tolerate. Yet, she has a flawless face that attracts men.

True enough, hurted, she came back to me and I care for her. I know all my women very well, I know her well. She can leave anytime she wishes... ... I won't stop her.

The problem she realises is, if she leaves me, who will really care for her? In this whole world, there is only one man who would tend to her whenever she needs help. And that's me.

To be honest, she is treating me rather badly... as always. That's her character. Logically speaking, I should have dumped her. But she is purely merely stupid, not evil... and I want her to live proper.

In the case if she has spotted her 'One', I have told her she only needs to inform me and she can leave.

I can only leave her if she is in a strong position. I have come back from another woman to tend to her precisely because she was and is weak.

BB,

I do agree with you. Not all ladies in their 30s are mature.

 

[soisuka]

You sound like her father.....enuf said...no wonder u think rs love is great and so omnipotent... You do realize you're narcissistic ya??

 

[scopefun]

No. I am just her hospital. When she needs me, I'd be around. And I jolly well be around because I do wish her well.

It's up to you to think I am narcissistic.

But relationship is not just about your own happiness or selfish desire. There are things we cannot decide like that. This is not a business where we take care of our profits...

You are just not yet mature to the point you realise humans have souls.

 

[soisuka]

I wonder why a 'great' guy like u isn't with someone equally 'great'. anyway, its been fun...sometimes u do make sense and sometimes I agree w u, but I have to go to work.......ah wait...at this hr? could I possibly be that helpless stupid woman who is secretly working as a hooker bcos of her low self esteem so fueled by you.... oh no I don't have a flawless face...damn....so close to being ur ideal of a stupid woman....

Keep it going...ur nonsense distracts me long enough from my miseries....ah now I see ur usefulness....and I realize humans have souls...just not you...

 

[scopefun]

Hopefully my nosense is not precisely what causes your misery. LOL~

Like I said, it's really up to you. All I am interested in is entertainment this forum can provide.

With someone equally great...? Do you think there is an angel in Singapore?

Have a nice day working... working your misery. LOL~

 

[jenny_lim]

soisuka, i agree, he is a born loser. A VERY DESPERATE MAN!

 

[susanna_low]

I do think the care is more like a friend rather than romance kinda r/s.

U noe the type tt "i always be there for u"....

I have a platonic friend who's exactly like tt and he will always be there for me, 2am, 3am..any time, any moment and we can dump all our nonsense to each other.... but exceeding more than friends is a big no no.

 

[_bb]

u all dont argue with each other anymore.... we shld b there for those who need advises or opinions..

peace

)

 

[scopefun]

Very hard to classify... I tend not to classify.
Actually, in chinese: 顺其自然.

I doubt she can even be a good friend.

 

[susanna_low]

then it's more like pity..

 

[scopefun]

Nay. It's not pity.

How to put it... I just want her to live properly, to make sure she is ok... I'd help her in any way possible.

Aiyah, she is really stupid, and she thinks she is very clever!!! I can even go on to say she is crazy...

But I'd still do as much. And it's hell for me.

 

[jenny_lim]

yes, she is stupid, she is crazy. and u are making use of her. u are really an animal.

 

[cococherry]

I have the impression that you have STD.

 

[scopefun]

Your impression is wrong.

I have get myself tested, negative. Disappointed? LOL~

 

[jenny_lim]

haha, so it's real. U are a regular at DSC

 

[ckgal]

scope guy, u don't have STD, but i think u might have aids. That's problem, there is a window period of a few months then can be tested whether got aids not. Good luck. HAHAHA.

 

[cococherry]

Negative is good or else where to find the entertainment which u have been providing if u die. Haha

Morrrrronnnns???? Again

 

[hurtsomuch]

Hi scope, initially I really didn't want to open this thread because it's open by you. Probably I was being sterotype because of all the negative replies you have given in this forum but I am glad I read this thread of yours today.

somehow I feel for you... some how i wish the guy who i love so deeply yet makes me so miserable were half as faithful as you.

many people will think what you've said is bullshit but i can totally relate what you mean. even if you have many gfs, your love for the married woman still remains strong...

i am married. but i couldn't divorce due to some strong reason... i fell in love with a married man 2 years ago and thou he is divorced now, he is seeing someone again and i am still stuck in the limbo... i wish he was persistant enough to take me away. but end up I am being blame for making him lonely hence he found himself a gf. but he keep claiming he still loves me alot and he have his reason of sticking to his gf.

i don't know what to do. i don't have the courage to love him any deeper because it felt like i am slowly killing myself. i cannot be selfish again to ask him leave his gf.

tell me how do you even keep loving her when she is with someone else? because I really can't do it.

 

[margret]

hurtsomuch, can i ask u if u will tolerate a man if he have another girlfriend when he is with u

 

[hurtsomuch]

i can't... but i can't let go at the same time.

 

[margret]

if i am u settle your marriage first. then go out socialize more. There are more men thousand times better than his kind. If u married him, u are just asking for trouble.

He is one who is not satisfy with one woman, he will have many girlfriend. In the end, u are going to suffer more than now.

 

[susanna_low]

hurt, a forum is a place to share discussion and to see issues from different perspectives. There's no right/wrong ans, hence it will be benefical to read with a open mind

I agree with margret on this. I've met guys who's exactly like that too, strong chemistry n he always act as if so sentimental and full of love for you while other hand citing 101 excuses of not able to be with you.

Take a step back and you will get the picture. Talk are free and actions are for real.

Stop wasting your time.

 

[simpleman]

At the end of the day, if guy says he loves you but can't be with you - you should know the "real priority" you have in his life.

Yes, a guy can love many woman. He can even marry the women he love less and keep on loving other women - some he will profess his undying love. But the reality is - you are never his top priority and that speaks volume about the "love".

But some people are like you. Need to be in perpetual suffering to feel that you are alive. On the one hand you don't want to leave him, can't leave without him.. and yet on the otherhand you will find reasons not to be with him.

I don't believe that we can't be with the person we love if we really want it that badly - by saying that there are reasons. The main reason is that you don't love enough. PERIOD. If you love enough you will find ways to resolve the problem. And if he love enough, he will find ways to be with you. So yes, stop wasting time. Your love seem greater because it cannot be fulfilled - that is all. In reality - it is just because you are reluctant to let go.

 

[scopefun]

CKGal,

Basically I was 'driven off' by the specialists there cos I have no STDs and I keep going back for tests. I did a test 1 year later, so you probably are disappointed it turns out negative from a blowjob.

Hurtsomuch,

Only naive people read selectively. LOL~

Aiyah... My story is simple. I fell for the girl 16 years ago when we were both college students. She gave me the number, but... I never called to chat. Actually I know she is the one but...

But I ran away.

Then I met her again. Then my feelings overflood.

How to love her forever, you asked. Simple, love is love lah, be it she be with another man, fock whole day whole night with someone else or death... even if she dies, I'd still love her, because I don't have a choice. I don't choose to love her. Got it?

Married or not, this aspect only matters because she is a woman and I respect her marriage only because I expect her to cherish it. My expectation of this woman is near perfect, ie she won't betray her husband and she married the right guy. It gives me no reason to move forward one bit. And I want her to be faithful, so that I have fallen for a great girl.

You don't know what to do... Basically, love in this aspect is just a feeling. You DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING. Let everything goes naturally.

I love her, that's all. You love him, that's all. It's not faithfulness, though I can guarantee you if she marries me, I'd love her forever, and she will be the one and only. But in reality, things don't go that way. You just have to accept it.

Divorce or not, you gotta know you are a person, you have got a heart and soul. Love doesn't mean necessarily sex. You can go on loving that married man as a married woman.

Whether the man is really worth it...

Seriously, that's up to your judgement. I can't advise on this kind of thing.

Chocolatte,

You paying me for the entertainment? Haha~

Hopefully you won't miss me to high heavens if I were to be gone... ... *wink wink~

 

[ckgal]

don't bullshit here, if u are going for the 'test', they weren't turn u away.

i are simply a trying to act class but u really got no class

 

[scopefun]

Don't know pretend to know. Go to DSC clinic with me and I can get the specialist to tell you.

Stupid.

 

[ckgal]

sorry, don't have to be seen or associate with u. It's a disgrace. Ha ha ha. Even specialist know u, no words able to describe u.

 

[jenny_lim]

my god, we really have a crazy guy here, keep on going for STD, and 'driven off' by staff from DSC.

Calling people moron and stupid, i just he himself is moron, if he didn't have symptoms of STD, then keep on going for STD test.

 

[jenny_lim]

i guess he have gone KUKU 16 years ago. Cos he was hurt by that girl. That why he is throwing his frustrations at people who are marry. He knows he can;t be happily marry that hence make bad comment.

 

[scopefun]

CKGal,

Moron~ LOL~

 

[ckgal]

Scope GUY,

That is the best u can do? Your vocabulary is so limited.

Don't cry 36 year old man who have a brain of a 16 year old.

 

[scopefun]

Childish.

 

[ckgal]

Scope Guy, it's ok, i understand. i wouldn't be angry with a Crazy Man. I have my fun with u. Have a nice day

 

[mikki_liew]

Scope Guy, i really agree with them. U really have something wrong in your brain

 

[soisuka]

Hang on a min, so this 'the one' that scope guy talks abt, did they actually have a rs??? or is it just a very long crush??

 

[scopefun]

Soisuka,

Your comprehension really fails... LOL~

 

[soisuka]

So did u?

 

[mikki_liew]

he normally will not able to answer his relationship questions directly.

 

[scopefun]

Soisuka,

So you can read, can't you?