Yup, just paid yesterday.

But then, I dun wish to have those yum seng sessions or any games. I wonder will it look strange... The one I'm going with, I mentioned bout the CD copyright, he says usually play from thumbdrive, or my laptop. Hmmm... hopefully, they might close one eye on that. Wonder how they validate, esp. if I did some editing to the songs. Show them a few original CDs? Will they check every song...?
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bearine Hi bearine, you are not alone. My fiance and myself both are not going to have yum seng.
Neither will we have cake cutting or champagne toasting. We asked ourselves the meaning behind these actions and realise it does not resonate with us and our origins.
For example, wedding cake originated from other countries in the early days when wedding parties are small, the cake was to be distributed among the guests by only the bride because consuming the cake would ensure fertility. But as wedding parties get bigger, brides no longer distribute cakes personally. see here for more info:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_cake
Yum Seng itself is a Cantonese term, I am not too sure of its origins or meaning. However neither of us are Cantonese. Neither of our ancestors are Cantonese. So I guess no point doing something that's not our culture
Lastly, champagne toasting, is tied together with yum seng usually. But now that I dun want yum seng, then probably no point having the wastage of a champagne fountain. Do people ever realise how much champagne is wasted trying to fill the top tiers of the champagne glass fountain?
The complimentary 500g cake and bottle of champagne from the hotel, I intend to have them sent to my room, and be shared among our few friends who has helped us out at the wedding, during the planning process, or whichever ways. These people probably stayed till the end to help the couple, and I think they deserve a thank you toast from me at least. It does not have to be friends only, even my family who decide to stay till the end, they must be in a joyous mood for a drink. Friends and family bonding over a glass of drink, in a small bridal suite, thats fine. We dont have to do it rowdily in front of 200 plus guests and make everyone feel awkward.
For relatives who expect otherwise, I wont worry about them. This is my big day, one of the most important days of my life (other than first child, first time hearing child call me Mummy, bla bla any other impt days). I am sure they will be courteous and understanding enough to respect my thoughts. If they are not understanding, it wouldn't bother me either. Its my wedding day, I will reflect on it multiple times in the coming year, and perhaps once a year every wedding anniversary, then maybe occasionally in the next 20-50 years later...more often than anyone else who is not the bride and groom.
The above is my 2 sense worth...we decided so based only on my fiance's and my own reference to our family background and our own origins, dear other married ladies,brides and brides to be who has different views from me, pls do not feel offended.

. I trust that every couple have different ways of life and different family background. And to some, it make sense to have the above.
As a guest attending other people's wedding, I will also respect the couple if they prefer to have yum seng(I will contribute to the cheering of cos

)/cake cutting/champagne fountain.