me using the tea-set that my parents used at my mother's side when they got married. still in perfect condition.
so only going to buy a set to be used for groom's side.
i think the set comes with 2 or 4 cups right? what my fren did, n i also saw other people do is, they have a warm basin of water at the side, so after serving tea, the "helper" (can be jiemei, can be auntie) will rinse the cups abit in the basin, before pouring tea again to serve the next pair of elders/relatives. if have 4 cups then will be fast la, can use the cups interchangeably.
whether to kneel or stand.. i guess depends on ur parents' and elders' standards lor. my parents expect us to kneel, cos it's a show of respect. so i guess that's what i'l be doing! if u think kneeling might be tough on hard floor, then put 2 cushions on the floor to kneel on lor! heez