usually the GUY side would pay more for the "wedding" due to the girl is marrying into the guy family, give birth to the children which follow groom surname..etc.. as this is traditional.
since they want a wedding dinner (the whole "show" then it is logical for them to fork out part of the wedding ) as it is inviting parents friends and relatives. I totally agree with you Mrs Ang!
eventhough some couples have to cater all this cost (probraly both parents are not well to do, for eg; fathers are no longer working for a long time, mothers are very low income earners etc etc) but then the parents know they can't afford to give their children a "big wedding" then would respect children to plan their own. It is quite unreasonable for parents to request something and they are not helping out.
If u want traditonal go full tradiotional. If u want to be Yi si Yi si type, then let the young couple make the most decisions. don't half half. the young couple can get lost haha
Even parents are not rich doesn't mean they can demand this and that for the wedding but yet not helping out. If daughters do ask their mothers to understand the groom side etc etc... at the end the mother sure would give in; but years later, if anything happen, this would definitely be brought up.
so ladies, if your TI JIN is still not done, my suggestions is both groom and bride talk between themselves and then ask your own parents what is in their mind and the young couple work it out with their own parents, so when the parents meet, there is a once off agreement and happy happy depart. =)
Ti Jin, Pin Jin, An Chuan, Guo Da Li - it is tradition and custom. Thats why it is call the Customary Wedding
Ohhh this weekend i am going to a few bridal shops, have shortlisted -
1. White weddings
2. Vaughtan
3. Kevin Seah
4. China Online Ordering
5. Vivian (home-base business)
6. Just Gown (home-base business)
Hope I can get the gown with a good price =)
Mrs Ang, with more practice i am sure you can cook =)