jolene428
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dzxz = halo
Wow.. u as kiasu as me.. started planning 1 yr before
But is good.. sometimes get to learn more things along the way.. i am glad to learn so much things earlier or else sure panick..
i think it is okay that your mother 'return' the angbaos for the female side to you
My mother said she will 'return' if not all, majority of the amount back to us
Coz she knws my HB is paying everything for the wedding... even the SDJ, GDL items and furnitures for our new room (i will be staying with the inlaws till 2012)...
I thk every mother will want the best for their daughters no matter hw ge gao they are seemed to be. Like i used to think and still think my mother very fussy and ge gao but she always said its coz for my own good la... and tt the inlaws wont thk i got no backing and can be bullied lah... Thus i thk mothers nowadays are mostly very understanding that the angbaos are to be 'returned' to cover the banquet... if not ultimately, the bride will suffer if the groom runs out of savings immediately after the wedding...
And i agree that it is good nwadays we pay for the wedding ourselves so we can have it the way we want and we can stand up tall in the inlaws family
But of coz becoz of that we must spend our money wisely coz... AD is just a day of fame and glory... wats impt is the life... ever after the wedding day.. or in other words.. the marriage... its always good to have leftover cash to play with then to really start a fresh lor...But best if can dont pay anything via instalments.. if nt after wedding still not debt free...like my fren, 1 yr after her wedding, still paying for her wedding cost 0__0
i think it is okay that your mother 'return' the angbaos for the female side to you
I thk every mother will want the best for their daughters no matter hw ge gao they are seemed to be. Like i used to think and still think my mother very fussy and ge gao but she always said its coz for my own good la... and tt the inlaws wont thk i got no backing and can be bullied lah... Thus i thk mothers nowadays are mostly very understanding that the angbaos are to be 'returned' to cover the banquet... if not ultimately, the bride will suffer if the groom runs out of savings immediately after the wedding...
And i agree that it is good nwadays we pay for the wedding ourselves so we can have it the way we want and we can stand up tall in the inlaws family