Coyote,
To answer your questions, hubby and I decided that we want a baby now because we really want to. Hubby made it abundantly clear to me after he proposed that he wants a family. I was hesitant initially and I asked all the questions you asked. And he convinced me this is the thing we want to do. (plus he's a good salesman)haha.
We want a baby now cos we are still young and healthy (minus the smoking etc etc lar)Hopefully I will get my figure back quickly as well, with my metabolism still high and all. heh! He wants one soon so that he wont be too old to play football with a son/daughter when they grow up.
The world is a funny place to live in but life is how you make it out to be right? Our parents did it with less money and more kids but look at how we all turned out. Not perfect but well enough to survive.
I think there'll be a LOT of worries to bring children to this world but everyone we spoke to who have children have said that although it is hard being parents and having all these responsibilities, the joy come from the children themselves and that's intangible.
Financially (which is my concern), hubby said something that rang true to me. There'll never be a day when you have ENOUGH money. Unless of course, we struck 4D. So we'll just have to prioritise.
But having said that, we must be ready with a mindset. We know that if we are blessed with one someday, our lives are not our individual own again. But as both hubby and I have done what we wanted to do as singles then, we've partied hard, we've travelled to half of the world and been on the "rock n roll" many times around the block, so we've decided maybe this is time for a different life.
All in all, we are still idealistic. But sometimes in this cynical world, it may not be so wrong to be idealistic. Perhaps having a baby is like an extension of our love. *eeww..mushy talk* but somehow it feels that way
So do we really want Project B? Yes, as hubby said to me, "it's us against the world, kiddo!"