Dajie - I just came back from Indonesia 2 weeks ago. Was in Jakarta, Bandung, Semarang, Surakarta and Surabaya for work for a total of 16 days. Going back to the hotels at the end of the days had always been a comforting thought. Haha! It was my first trip to Indon (except for Batam & Tg Pinang).
Yes, I sometimes wish I had married an orphan. Or someone estrangled from his family =X
Jannie - Your MIL is shifting into YOUR house leh, not vice versa. You should make the call. But I understand sometimes circumstances just dont allow it. But come to in-laws, the hb should really do the talking.
suelynn - I also thank god EVERYDAY that I am not staying with them. But we are staying very near to both sides parents. In-laws will ask us to go back for dinner 1-2 times per week
And my SIL is around everytime.
I told my mum about it. She said the same thing, that we have different values and habits. I may see their family as weird, they could be thinking we are weird too
Bear - During the cold war, I checked my hb's handphone (haha, ok, this part I was wrong). Found out that his sis asked him one day if we were going bk for dinner, will ask MIL to cook. So he replied that we fought and I had been going out to dine with my friends. And also added that he didnt want to go back to parents' house, very sian etc etc.
And the sister then wrote things like (in diff sms) - dont bother about her, she is crazy. you treat her too well that's why she is like that. she is always treating her friends better than our family. you dont go and fetch her, you are always ferrying her around. she is unreasonable and cannot take stress thus throw tantrum on you. you spend so much money on her yet she like that? how can leave you alone to eat, you make sure you eat something, your health not good, we will heartpain etc etc
B.I.T.C.H or not?
I shot her the email and cc my husband. She didnt reply at all. My hb blew up at me so we had a big fight. But in the end he apologised and said he will try not to speak to the sister much. I was most disheartened by the fact that he just let her rattle off and try to sow discord.
He said he never agreed with anything she wrote. He only said Sian then she wrote that. But my point is - why cant he stand up for me?
My husband is a mummy's boy, very used to letting the parents (or sister) decide everything for him. Thus when it came to our ROM, flat, reno, wedding etc...the sister had to say something everytime. His parents are nice to me and they indulge in him, so relationsp is cordial. Few hiccups during wedding preps, I told him to settle with his folks. But this sister bitching behind me, he never tell her off. So now i am wondering, did she bitch about me to the parents/relatives?