Sorry, hate to break it to you but this is 2016. If you are not having sex with your partner, you are not normal. You still want to waste time on this bullshit. Life is short. You are past 30. Being weak is not attractive at all. You don't need to be in a relationship to get sex. You don't want to enter a relationship being a submissive to your illogical under-experienced partner. Have a life and stop comparing yourself to those at the bottom of the barrel to make your situation seem better. That is a weak mentality.